From time to time I receive messages from women telling me they want to be like me. Sending my full appreciation to all of you! This is a huge step forward to your personal growth, to recognize that you can learn more from other women. This is how I started my journey too, in my 20’s. I was always fascinated by powerful women, by people better than me, and took any occasion I had to start a conversation or just to be around them.

We learn from each other in all ways, always! This is how we grow, by having real experiences and interactions. And by releasing the ego – is how you make room for new information that can help you move forward into becoming what you want (life or business).

Transforming into something better starts with your decision to change, to grow.

Let’s continue this post by focusing on self-growth and relationships.

When you keep searching for continuous validation in relationships (and not only) you’ll keep attracting more of that need. Which will set you in a low place with yourself.

The need for external validation is happening when you don’t trust yourself. When you have low self-esteem. When you create dependency on others. When you stop dreaming. When things become empty. When you’re searching for that something but you have no idea what is it.

I will tell you what is it.

It’s YOU!

You’re searching for your true self, the one that got lost in the external need for validation that you got so addicted to.

Keeping in mind that you always find people that mirrors your internal beliefs, wouldn’t be better to start working on those beliefs? To transform?

This is why, in some cases, people end up in narcissistic relationships. Where your need for validation will be met at the beginning just to be used against you later on.

That is a moment when… you’ll either start thinking is your fault, you’re not good enough, and so on, (your low self-esteem that was there from the beginning will start to surface) OR you can get it as an opportunity to finally focus on yourself.

This makes me think that is actually a disguised opportunity to finally handle yourself. You can go down the rabbit hole with the narcissist’s challenges (keep in mind that a narcissist does all of that also from low self-esteem, deeper, but this is another discussion) and lose yourself, OR see it as an opportunity to make it work in your favor.

To start remembering that you DON’T NEED anyone’s validation to believe in yourself.

If you find yourself in this situation, do this.

 

Focus on yourself

Improve self-talk

Rebuild your confidence

Stop reacting to negative situations

Build a new belief system that will help you move forward

Keep going no matter what

Repeat

 

This is a great affirmation that you can start integrating as an assumption: 

– No matter how I feel things are always working out in my favor!

This should eliminate any resistance and help you integrate it faster – let me know how it works for you.

 

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