I have a very different vision, perspective on love, on intimate relationships.

 

As I say in my book (The Journal of Human Emotions), to be able to offer/give love you have to contain it first.

 

Which makes you love the other person without toxic attachement, thinking (as many songs convey this message) that you are nothing if you lose that person’s love.

 

That right here is toxic! 

Also the reason why so many women and men can’t get over a failed relationship.

And they get lost in this rabbit hole of getting back to their ex at any cost… years in a row.

Or, in the same line of this toxic relationship mindset, they can’t be alone and Need to find someone asap. 

And guess what? They do, but with the wrong partners which keeps them further in this loop, in this lost battle.

 

I do agree though that a relationship gives you a sense of self, of belonging. And this is what we actually search for.

 

I believe this is only 40% of the real truth.

 

You want to know what is the other 60%?

 

It’s you! Your values, beliefs, and who you truly are as a human being in a self-growth journey.

 

And this journey, of discovering who you are should go on in and out of a relationship.

 

What I’m trying to say in the end, is

 

Aim for a relationship that allows you to continue this journey of self with all the good and “weirdness” it comes.

While they do the same.

 

And this type of mindset puts you in the position of attracting what is best for you, and Not.. chasing – as many do, men and women.

 

That’s what I call a healthy relationship.

And this simply means, as I also mention in TJOHE book, that you have a Together and Separate journey at the same time. Which is the final completion.

 

Of course, the traits of a relationship don’t end here. You want a reliable partner, caring, loving, supporting and so on… but this is just common sense in my opinion.

Why would you want a relationship otherwise?

 

Final conclusion.

Discover who you are truly, make this a priority and not another person. This way you gonna fully enjoy each other’s company.

 

To get to live by this mindset, to embody it, you have to learn…

Self Control! 

Of thoughts, emotions, actions and reactions.

 

Go read the book!

 

And of course as always, if you feel ready to start your journey with me, you know what you have to do – message me. 

(and please use a full sentence when you contact me for the first time, I don’t answer to hi messages, or emoji…)

 

What is your opinion of a healthy relationship?

 

D.

 

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