Conversations with Alex
Conversations with Alex (my son)
He just started school after 3 weeks of winter vacation.
We have a deal, one of many, where he gets to skip school on less busy days, from time to time. (“bad” mom lol – I hope his teacher doesn’t see this)
A few days ago, while I was at my laptop, he told me to give him a hug. (His hugs are usually not free)
I hugged him of course, and asked:
– I know this hug wasn’t free, what do you want?
– Well… with a smirk on his face… Remember our deal about skipping school? I want to skip tomorrow.
This was happening after the first day of school, after vacation… (lol)
So I told him no, duh.
Of course he kept going. (quite persistent when he wants something)
I tried to explain to him that we need balance in our deals, and why he can’t do this yet.
He didn’t like it, but was cool in the end.
I just let him express his anger (“I will never hug you again!” or do this, and that – and I agree with everything he says), holding my smile back lol (he’s so cute when he gets angry).
Knowing he will calm down eventually and understand.
Which always happens.
When he’s calm we talk again to make sure he’s ok. (and have free hugs lol)
Understanding balance in everything we do and the importance of allowing negative emotions to surface, in order to solve it, starts at a young age.
If you didn’t have that as a child (I know I didn’t) you can train yourself in doing so.
Yesterday his lovely teacher sent me an amazing message about his school accomplishments.
He is top at school and effortlessly.
So proud of him, in all aspects!
And I make sure to let him know often.
Acknowledgment of even the smallest things, not just the big ones, is important.
So, it’s easy to create deals with him, and is always a win-win setting.
Have a great week! 😉
