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How to release anger

 

How to temper your anger

 

I will start by saying that is a NORMAL feeling.

And sometimes, when things go against your beliefs, people or/and situations will get you mad.

It happens even to the calmest people. (myself included)

But how to handle this anger when it’s happening?

When you have an intense argument with someone else?

When all you want is to express your anger right there? And just say whatever comes out in that moment…

 

You’re going to DO and SAY things that you’ll soon regret.

This is what Uncontrolled anger does!

Here are some steps to take when you find yourself in this situation.

 

1 – Breathe. Take a deep breath, this will save you a few seconds and help to calm a bit and to stop reacting.

 

2 – Remove yourself from that place/person physically.

Go in another room or go outside for a walk, fresh air and walks (moving your body) is going to help you calm down even more and think clearly.

 

3 – Exercise forming new beliefs around it, new habits. Here is the most important part.

When alone, let the anger out, express yourself.

Then, start asking yourself questions to understand if it’s really something major or not.

Either way, major or not, you still have to release it out of your system.

And you can do that by sending positive intentions towards yourself and the person involved.

 

Yeah, I know, not easy to do. I agree. 

But! But.

You can just say it.

You can use your anger as fuel! And send positive intentions.

I use this fast line first:

Universe bless them! God bless them!

It works very fast when it’s not a major thing. Instantly.

 

For major things, I use the same line… 

With a twist.

It works very fast, in a few hours max all is out of my system.

 

Can you have good intentions towards someone when angry? Well not always, it’s hard, I get it. This is why I created that twist.

 

There is also a method through which you can release anger, and not only.

Journaling!

Also, with a TWIST.

 

As you can see I have different ways to go about it, when it comes to releasing negative emotions and thoughts. (I share some in my book too).

Is all about learning

SELF CONTROL in any situation.

And getting yourself back on track.

The sooner you start practicing, the faster you’ll get where you want!

 

I’ll be happy to share with you the twist(s) and methods I apply to make it so efficient in releasing anger.

 

Of course, within paid sessions.

If you feel ready on all levels to start your journey with me, message me.

 

Have a great week!

D.

 

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Your Chance to Gain Self Control!

 

 

What is the impact of my work?

I’ve helped people 

To improve their relationships by setting new priorities and shifting perspective.

To restore confidence whenever is necessary.

To gain SELF CONTROL in any situation.

To manifest their desires.

To overcome anxiety and deep rooted fears.

 

Like my client who was sleeping is his car not knowing what to do next. Now he can afford my services willing to transform his life completely in all areas.

Or like the woman who reached out with high anxiety when she thought her life was over – she took advantage of one of my free sessions and followed through.  She soon messaged me with gratitude saying that “something has happened” her anxiety completely stopped and felt more confident about the next steps to take.

Or like another client who was having panic attacks due to a deep fear he had. Another message filled with gratitude came through after a few sessions with him.

Or like another one, who was having sui**dal thoughts… He thanked me for the work I provide because it saved him when he was on the edge.

And will stop examples here for this post.

 

Success stories are available on my website or in my private group. Go check them out!

My success rate so far is at 100%!

The type of work I provide is proven to be effective. 

ONLY for those who feel ready to actually implement the tools I offer.

 

For those who keep an open mind – I have different ways to go about an issue in order to get to the solution of it.

For those who want to stop a negative cycle and get to the root cause of it.

For those who have had enough and want to improve their life quality.

For those who are Truly Ready for Real Transformation.

 

Depending on your needs, I offer different types of services.

Human Upgrade 2.0 program is for you if you want to dive in deeper and get daily guidance for one month to dismiss whatever is holding you back from moving forward.

We can extend it as necessary.

You can also go for one week only of this program.

Another option is via email coaching.

All details are on my website.

You can also discover business services I provide.

 

Now, you will either find a list of excuses of why you shouldn’t jump in, and keep running in circles…

OR you’ll go for it. 

It’s completely your choice!

 

PS 1: I am not here to judge your story. Never did, never will. I am purely focused on getting the best solutions tailored for you!

 

PS2: My content reflects how our sessions will go. Friendly, to the point, simple and efficient. If you resonate with my style you will love consultations with me. If not, not.

We’re good either way.

 

That being said, keep in touch and talk soon.

Drop your questions if any.

And remember.

You make the rules! I am just giving you the tools.

 

Have a wonderful day!

D.

 

 

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Mindset 2.0

 

Story time. Grab your ☕ and read.

 

I will start by saying that your value, worth, is not measured or based on someone’s ability or inability to notice it.

 

You will meet people who will not understand or resonate with you. Who will do or say mean things especially when they see in you something that deep down, or at a subconscious level, they want it too.

 

What is that “something”?

1 – The ability to express yourself as you truly are.

2 – The courage to live by your own rules and beliefs.

3 – The power to think and speak freely, whenever you consider is necessary.

 

Isn’t it this what we all seek eventually?

(Note that your beliefs may change as you grow, which is normal – but this is another discussion for another time)

 

Why do those people choose to do this? Because they are afraid to put in the effort to get it, to transform in something better, and therefore they will try to make you think you’re wrong or less than.

Know it’s ok, as long as you are willing to proceed on your path to authenticity and self discovery.

 

Take it as an authenticity test.

Will you listen to other people that you know they don’t hold the best intentions, or you’ll listen to yourself, to your intuition?

This one should be easy to decide on.

 

I’ve met many people like this. I still do.

The difference now is that I can spot it right away. 

Knowing where they’re coming from, the real reasons and intentions behind words and behaviour, makes it easier for me to navigate further with calm. It doesn’t even bother me anymore.

I accept it for what it is and move further.

They are either in, wanting to change and work on negative traits(genuinely), or out.

I keep it that simple.

Don’t even bother to explain yourself, no need, just move on.

 

Feel free to borrow this mindset. 

It will save you lots of energy, time and effort.

Your people will come around if you stay focused on self growth and becoming authentic – which is just a result of inner work.

 

I’ve also met wonderful people, I still do, from whom I’ve learned a lot, a true inspiration.

Aim to have these type of people around you, ideally like you or better.

And this is another belief I’ve worked on successfully. And it’s happening for me, all of my beliefs are reflected in my reality.

Manifestation at its finest!

 

How I got here, having this healthy mindset? Years and years of trial and error, ups and downs, of observation, of contemplation, of reading, listening, journaling, of self awareness.

In other words a lot of inner work.

 

In my work here, across social media, through private coaching sessions, I am giving you the shortcuts.

 

I have the necessary tools to live a better life, more fulfilling and with purpose. I use them.

And I am sharing them with you.

 

Just a short reminder, change doesn’t come from reading/hearing a good piece of content, you have to actually implement it, to practice it.

You have to make it a lifestyle!

 

If you are ready to start your journey with me or you have questions, send a message.

 

Have a good one!

D.

 

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Why your manifestation doesn’t work

Why your manifestation doesn’t work?

What is going on in the back of your mind when you’re manifesting?

Let’s say you want to manifest your sp. You say your sp is always calling you, or texting you, but what you think is where is he/she, what he’s doing, does he/she has someone else in their life?

 

This exactly is why your affirmation doesn’t work. You have to do revision always when something like this happens.

You do revision by replacing what you think with your desire.

If you wonder why he doesn’t call you or text you, immediately replace it with: he is going to call me any minute now, she is going to text me any minute now. He can’t stay without me, he needs me in his life always.

You can do it in your mind or on paper. Journal about it.

Have 2 columns where you write in the left what upsets you about him or her, and in the right column what is your desired outcome. Create a habit out of it.

 

Revision is powerful if you practice it every time your mind thinks something else than you desire.

Practice revision always to get in the feeling of it and to get your manifestation faster.

The even if method helps too.

 

If you want me to help you on your journey and manifest faster, message me.

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The story of how I manifested my son and his health

How I manifested my son

 

This time I am going to share the story of how I manifested my son and his health. 

 

My son is one of the greatest manifestations ever. Planned him in my early 20’s. I always said, when I had family discussions with friends, that I will have a child right after 30 years old, married or not. And I did! I had my son at 31 years old.

Even though he was planned in the summer of 2012 when his father and I took the decision to have a child. 

When we saw the delay we went to some checkups. All turned out well but I wasn’t getting pregnant.

During this time I always KNEW I am going to have a child no matter what.

In January 2013 we were getting ready for another round of checkups, to see what is the issue if any, again. A couple of days before the appointment with the doctor I woke up in the middle of the night feeling sick and throwing up. The next day I bought a pregnancy test right away, I knew it and the test confirmed it.

I was speechless, I couldn’t talk when I saw it. One of the happiest days of my life.

 

The next manifestation regarding my son was right before his birth, something wasn’t going well he needed to stay longer in the hospital than normal and they didn’t have a solution at that time. So, I started saying that no matter what my son is coming home healthy. Even if my son was in the hospital I start affirming that he is well and home with us. And so it was, in just a couple of days my son was home feeling better. And he is better to this day.

 

No matter what is going on, know that is going to be alright if you persist.

I intend for this story to inspire you to never give up! Your assumptions manifest always, make it intentional.

I am here to guide you as your mindset and manifestation coach.

Denisa

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How to choose to change YOUR LIFE

You wake up every single day choosing how your day is going to be.

Choosing how you going to show up in your business.

Choosing how your love life is going to be.

Choosing how your partner is going to show up.

 

You choose every single day how your life is going to be in every aspect of it.

 

You also wake up every day with the power of changing what you don’t like.

Also by choice.

 

Change the way you are going to show up every day.

Change how your love life is going to be.

Change how your business is going to be.

 

Change how your life is going to be.

 

You can use scripting, visualization, and affirmations to shift your deepest limiting beliefs into what you want. Or simply decide to change your reality. It starts with your strongest assumptions.

Millions of people did it, is your turn now.

 

Assume that you are going to show up as the best version of yourself every day, make it your affirmation, your new assumption and watch how things start to shift.

 

Get to work and practice every single day until your assumption is implemented.

 

Have a wonderful and magical day,

Denisa

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Get lucky by using the Even If method

I always considered myself lucky. 

 

I was lucky in my 20’s when I decided to have fun and make money at the same time. Worked in the best bars and I was in top 1% of the staff that made large amounts of money.

I was lucky in my 30’s when I started working in the digital marketing space and soon after became top rated freelancer in my expertise, with low engagement, clients came to me on autopilot and made good income. And this happened in the first year.

I was lucky when 7 years later started my coaching and consultancy business when I got engagement from the first posts and further clients.

I still consider myself lucky to this day in everything I do. While I realized in all of this time what was playing in the back of my mind in every situation.

Was the Even If method.

I always said to myself – Even if I don’t know how to go about this business, situation, I fully trust is going to work in my favor. Even if I don’t have the amount of money I want yet, I fully trust is going to be fruitful for me any minute now, easily and effortlessly.

This is how my luck was translated, through the even-if method plus hands-on strategies. Always. It was a mix of 80% mindset and 20% action. And it comes true without hesitation. 

And my luck continued in many areas of my life and still does.

 

You can get lucky too. Start now and practice it. It takes intention and full trust to get what you want, in any area of your life.

What do you want?

A successful business and growth? Set the intention and practice.

The relationship of your dreams? Set the intention and practice.

A better life? Set the intention and practice.

 

If you want my support to make it happen faster ad easier, message me.

 

Denisa

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Revision

How do you revise a past situation?

The way you identify with a past experience will tell you where you’re at in your journey, and if it keeps you still stuck in the feeling of that experience.

You visit that experience and give it the worst scenario ever. Not joking. Then, you realize is not that bad after all and you’ll be able to detach and be present for future different experiences. You know it because you are here and the experience behind you.

 

When you shift your perspective about a past experience you revise it.

 

Choose the new perspective you want to change and start repeating it. Create the vision of what you want.

Ask yourself – how that experience helped you be who you are today? 

Soon you will look at it just like you’d watch a movie. That’s when you know the revision is complete.

 

Pick your worst past moments, keep the knowledge, and trash the bad stuff. 

Revise it.

 

You can use the even if method here too.

 

Denisa

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When to stop manifesting your desire. How to know you implemented a new belief.

Expectation is the transition of your perspective. You get to expect what you wanted (whatever you’re manifesting) when you change or shift your perspective about the thing or person you want.

That is the moment when you feel like you don’t have to do any work, say affirmations, visualize etc. It is implemented in your subconscious mind as a belief and naturally, you expect it to happen any minute.

 

So if you wondered when you stop your manifestation practice (visualization, affirmation, scripting, etc.) you have the answer. You stop the process when you expect it, when you know is going to happen. You might not know yet HOW is going to happen, but you know is going to happen.

 

This is how you also know you’ve implemented successfully an assumption, and eventually a belief.

 

From this moment on your reality MUST conform. It’s the LAW at work!

 

And now I will give you this powerful affirmation, that is natural and gets into your subconscious mind fast just through repetition.

 

I receive amazing news that is going to change my life forever into what I always wanted, and this is going to happen any minute now!

 

If you feel resistance add the even if method to it.

 

Go wild with it! Use it for your health too!

 

Denisa

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Everyone and Everything Is You Pushed Out. Self Concept Explained.

“Everyone is you pushed out” – N.G.

 

This is my favorite quote from Neville and my take on it.

 

I used to think that every experience is a reflection of yourself and that what you see in others is in you. Let me tell you that this is not always the case, most times it is but not every time. And this specific quote goes around this idea only. Which I don’t find it complete.

I believe the meaning is deeper than that.

People will show up in your life according to what you think of them and not necessarily because what you see in them is reflected in your behavior or way of living life; but only because you formed an idea about who they might be. 

And they will show up like that just for YOU.

 

Keep on reading.

 

That person that you described behaving in a certain way based on your impressions can act that way with YOU ONLY and very different to everybody else around.

 

To better understand this, look at your friendships. You might have a friend who always acts nice to you but not to everybody else. Or a colleague who is mean to you only and friendly to everybody else.

Also, look at your relationships, how does your partner show up for you? If the answer is not as you want, ask yourself what you think about them and compare it to their behavior.

 

And this applies also to situations in your life. What are your assumptions about what is going on around you? 

These can be fake assumptions implemented by external info which doesn’t represent you.

For example, you never had a relationship before, but a friend told you that men will only use you, or women will only take advantage of you. You took it as truth and made it an assumption without thinking if this is a truth you want to carry through life.

 

Can you guess how your relationships will be having these assumptions? Exactly like you think.

You might not be a person who uses people, but because you think it about others, you’ll meet other men or women who will…use you.

 

And this is

 

YOU PUSHED OUT. 

Your beliefs pushed out. 

Your assumptions pushed out.

 

And in many situations without embodying that specific trait necessarily, but only with a poor concept about the other people you interact with is enough.

 

I would complete this quote with:

Everyone and everything is you pushed out!

 

You see, is not only about your self-concept but also about your concept of them.

 

This explains better my last post where I say:

Whatever you expect to happen is going to happen.

 

Do you find it difficult to spot those assumptions you have, that bring situations and people you don’t want? Or, you want to solve and transform them but have no idea how?

 

Join me for Human Upgrade 2.0 program.

You can choose one full month of support and real practice, one week, a few email sessions, or a single session. Choose what fits you best.

 

My favorite formula to apply in life and business is:

 

Keep

It
Stupid

Simple

 

What are my results? I will let others tell you – check the success stories and feedback I get.

See more details below.

Message me if you have questions.

 

Master yourself and keep it stupid simple (K.I.S.S.)!

 

Denisa

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