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Every post you find here is showing you how to use the manifestation and mindset process in your favor, how it influences your life and the decisions you take.

You manifest always but you might not be conscious of it. Your strongest beliefs reflect the life you live. Your belief system is your life leader in all areas and what makes things happen.

When you realize that everything is happening because of your beliefs can get overwhelming.

But not every negative situation in your life was there because you thought about it. Some things happen “unexpectedly”, out of the blue. Nothing is out of the blue, they happen because of some other stronger assumptions, or beliefs, you have. And in this case, that negative experience is necessary to manifest your other assumptions.

So, stop blaming yourself for all the negative stuff going on just because you became conscious of how the manifestation process works, how the human mind works actually.

To give you an example, let’s say you’re getting ready to go to an event. And you want to go, but you also want to have a great experience while there.

In this case, your strongest assumption is to have a great experience compared to the other one where you just want to go. This is how something appears that stops you from going to that event, and you can feel bad about it. 

You take it as a negative situation when actually prevents you from having a bad experience – that you’ll find out about it rather sooner than later. Then, you start being glad it happened that way, when you have the full picture.

You don’t always have the full picture from start, this is why you have to trust the process. At one point all will make sense. It always does.

Again, the strongest assumption wins.

What actually is manifestation? I explain in a video but will give you another simple explanation.

Manifestation = Self-talk

Whatever inner conversation you paint and believe as true with conviction becomes true.

This is the most powerful way to manifest and replace your beliefs.

Can you go to a business meeting hoping to close a deal if your inner talk is – I guess that partner will not agree to my terms? Of course not, you’ll fail. But if you work on your inner conversation first and replace it with – I am sure he (she) agrees to anything I propose – will increase the chances to close that deal to 100%. The more you practice it the better you get.

The way you show up in any circumstance sets the tone of your personal or business success.

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Stop chasing relationships

Why do people get married in our days? Why so many breakups?

Many people get into relationships or get married, driven by different beliefs.

The most common reasons are: 

Money & status.

Pushed by family and/or friends because “it’s time”.

Fear of loneliness.

True love.

The percentage of people starting a relationship, or getting married out of true love is small, unfortunately. This is exactly why the divorce rate and breakups are increasing.

It’s much easier to jump into a relationship hoping it will be fine than to take the time to work on yourself and figure out what you really want and how you want it. Of course, living a bit of room for the unknown. This is what I call the comfort zone, which eventually is not at all.

When you choose a relationship based on the first 3 reasons get ready to be unhappy, it will not fill your soul’s needs, not in the long term. 

In spiritual terms, you’ll not be aligned with your soul purpose.

We meet new people to have new experiences. We get in relationships (or get married) for the same reason. All is experience. Experience leads to growth, to transformation.

How do you want your experience to be? 

Based on evolution and growth, which will bring forward your other material desires and not only? Or based on stagnation? 

Which will create blockages on many levels.

Blockages at a soul level will manifest in your body too, in many forms.

Led by the above beliefs, you can find yourself chasing your ideal partner for a lifetime. Thinking is wrong not to be in a relationship or married.

You are not here to chase love, or just to be in a relationship, get married, have kids… 

You are here to discover, first, Who You are beyond what labels and beliefs others gave you.

And who you are is what brings you joy, that you can share with others.

Who you are is what brings your ideal partner. Naturally.

Love is a natural process, let it happen naturally. You will know when it happens.

Switch the priority order and watch what happens. 

Start working on yourself, on your beliefs, on what you want to do, and allow relationships to simply happen. Don’t force the process.

Marriage should happen only after you go through this process in my opinion. 

Knowing yourself well, and what you want (doesn’t have to be perfect), will make things easier for both partners.

And now I will ask you again… how do you want your experience to be in terms of relationships?

This is an assumption that you can integrate:

It’s so natural to me to have beautiful relationships!

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How to keep a mental diet

“The first step towards self-change, towards balance in life, is observation, gratitude, then forgiveness, and last but not least, love.”
 
 
You start your observation process by becoming aware of what you think and feel. This is how you keep a mental diet.
When you observe what you think and feel you can consider what you want to change, to replace.
Becoming aware of your thoughts and feelings will help you release and replace resentment.
This is how you start implementing new beliefs, new assumptions.
By observing.
 
Observation = Awareness
 
Next time when you catch yourself repeating an old negative pattern (thought, reaction…) stop for a second and ask yourself:
Do I want to continue with this behavior? What results do I get from it? How can I replace this thought?
Find the statement and apply it.
 
This is how you keep a mental diet.
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How to create a new belief system

To create a new belief system you have to create new assumptions.
 
How do you create an assumption?
 
You change the narrative, the statements you’re using in any situation. Your self-talk.
Spot it and switch it with what you want instead.
This requires an ongoing mental diet, awareness, finding a statement that is natural to you, and persisting in it until you build the inner knowing that is going to happen. That is the moment when you know you’ve built a new assumption. Repetition is the key.
 
To give you an example, let’s say you are getting ready to start a new business.
 
You might say to yourself:
What if this doesn’t work?
 
You can switch it to:
What if it DOES work out?!
You will notice a change in your mood quite fast just by saying this.
 
By transforming an affirmation into an afformation gets even more powerful.
 
I explain what mental diet, afformation, and affirmations are, and more, on my channel if you need further explanations.
 
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Shift Your Perspective About Depression

“Depression is actually the inability of the brain to understand the emotions manifested in a particular situation in the life of the individual. This also applies to certain mental illnesses.

In other words, depression is the alarm clock that warns people of their emotions that are so often ignored.”

Quote from The Journal Of Human Emotions book.

When on your transformational journey to become a better version of yourself, less pleasant experiences happen. They are there to teach you what you’ve asked for: How to become the best version of yourself, how to live a better life!

This process becomes possible when you have the ability to recognize what brings you down, and what you have to release to take the next step forward.

Based on the perspective you are taught to react and choose, the tendency is to push down what you don’t like, to ignore it. All of this builds up in time. The more you push it down the more it will want to surface. The longer you wait the heaviest the releasing process gets.

What to do?

Spend time with yourself. Go out in nature and ask yourself: What is holding me back from overcoming this situation? Write it down as it comes. The more you’ll do it the more you’ll get clarity about it. Practice.

Handwriting connects you faster with your thoughts. Your brain gets activated when you use handwriting (it also helps in learning faster and improving memory, my favorite method of learning since I was a child).

This statement is based on scientific research.

After you have a clear understanding of what negative emotions started your depression, you are a few steps away from healing it.

Keep on asking the same question every day – What is causing my depression? What is holding me back from overcoming it? Name your personal state and ask questions.

The answer will come, it always does.

The next step is to start improving your self-talk. This is how you reprogram your subconscious mind.

Repeat every day with authority. Discover more tips on how to go through this process in my other articles, videos, reels…

You learn new things through repetition, this is how we humans are wired. This is how you learned ALL that you know so far since birth. How to walk, how to talk, how to write… how to think! Through repetition.

A good assumption to integrate is:

I am in full equilibrium with myself always!

Decide to change what you don’t like and do it. Keep a mental diet. Choose your statements. Practice. Repeat.

Choose to transform your perspective on every level of your life!

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Invite Better Relationships

Expressing your genuine feelings and thoughts is not always easy.

This is when the blunt truth will save you the struggle of finding the right words.

A moment of truth can avoid a life of regret.

This is why you often end up in superficial relationships that don’t soothe your needs and wants.

Being your authentic self from the very first moments you interact with a person you like will make it easier to decide further if you really want to be with that person, or not.

It doesn’t matter if it is for a month or for a lifetime, what matters is practicing being your true self in any given moment.

When you’re hiding who you really are when interacting with people, you’ll end up around people and situations that won’t bring the joy you seek.

You are not here to please every person by any means, you are here to be your authentic self which leads to creating beautiful experiences in your life.

Ask yourself – What do I really want from a relationship? How do I want my relationships with people to be? What do I want to experience when in a relationship? Make a list.

The journey to your true self-discovery means setting clear intentions about what you want and how you want it. It means building confidence, learning when to say no, and when to take action.

It also means building a new balanced belief system that follows your intentions.

You build new beliefs by creating new assumptions.

This is an assumption that you can integrate:

I invite harmonious relationships in my life always! 

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Priorities & Narcissists

Make yourself a priority if you want others to respond the same. When you become a second option or not an option at all, that’s a straightforward message that you’re surrounded by the wrong people. Or that you have to work on your beliefs, boundaries, and rules, which puts you in the position of becoming a priority.

If you find yourself in the first situation, surrounded by the wrong people, and not realizing it, you’ll start to develop guilt, shame, low self-esteem. You’ll think that is your fault for becoming a second option for X person, that you have to do more, to prove more… just to grab their attention. This is a toxic behavior towards yourself that is deepening your low self-esteem. This type of behavior is met in relationships with narcissists.

Let me tell you “a secret” – we all meet a narcissist in our life at some point. 

The question is, where are you at with yourself when this happens?

This is where the difference is between becoming their victim or not. Or between becoming their long-term victim or not, better said.

People don’t show their true colors right away, usually. Narcissists made a golden rule out of this, to hide who they really are, and they do it well – until they get discovered.

Who are these narcissists? 

They are people too, like you, like me… but deep hurt people. With deep low self-esteem and high ego. It seems like these two go together when not balanced.

When people carry trauma in the long term without trying to heal it, they’ll start blaming others, victimizing themselves, becoming envious of anyone’s happiness, different beliefs, strength, power… When they start punishing these people for their traits, they already became narcissists. They feed with their toxic actions toward others, looking to mirror their inner feelings – all negative emotions spectrum. Is scary how far this can go.

I will give you one example only: Hitler. He was a narcissist.

Their need to feed with these toxic actions they take, is coming from the disbelief that they will never experience happiness, so why others should? All they need is a switch to change that negative belief and work on their inner transformation. Which is possible if they choose so.

And this is NOT your job, but fully theirs! As it is for each and every one of us. The inner state can be transformed by you only. It’s a journey that you decide to start, or not.

When you get to understand where they’re coming from, you’ll get over it easier and faster.

Getting back to priorities, making yourself a priority doesn’t mean ignoring others – goes the same with self-love, but setting clear rules and boundaries that align with your new belief system.

When you get clear and at peace with what you really want, the right people will show up. Especially in relationships.

Make yourself a priority and they will treat you as such. 

Don’t allow past relationship drama to affect your new one. Is a new chapter always, stay open-hearted and open-minded.

Make this statement your new assumption:

I choose to become the No 1 priority in my life and in relation to people that I choose to be part of my journey!

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Choose to Transform Yourself

Let’s celebrate our human state in all its layers.

You are part of this Infinite Universe. Physically small but the most powerful! This is exactly why you can have multiple experiences, good and bad. You were given a body, a mind, a soul. To be able to have this amazing human experience here on Earth.

To appreciate joy, happiness, love… you’re given the opposite. When you experience life drama in any shape or form you’re forced to search inside you ultimately. When you overcome those moments you get to experience real joy, happiness… The more you get to understand the negative situations in your life the more you’ll experience the positive ones. You don’t even have to completely overcome it to get there, you just have to W A N T to understand them.

How would you know what joy is without sadness?

How would you know what courage is without fear?

How would you know what togetherness is without loneliness?

How would you know what calm is without anger?

How would you know what health is without diseases?

How would you know what love is without indifference?

How would you discover W H O   Y O U   A R E  without emotional drama?

You were given a magic wand – FREE WILL! Which is nothing but the power to C H O O S E your life perspective, how you want to feel, how you want to think, your beliefs… You choose always what clothes to wear, what food to buy, what car to drive, what jewelry to wear…

You choose your friends, you choose when to react, when to talk, when to sleep, when to wake up…

You choose something every second of the day – conscious or not.

When you choose more mindful change is happening.

Use your magic wand to transform your perspective, therefore your life! You made the same choices for so many years… make a change, choose differently this time and test it out.

Perspective = Your real opinion about yourself, people, and things around you = Inner conversations about yourself, people, and things around you = Deep impressions about yourself, people, and things around you

Perspective = Self-Talk

Self-Talk = Inner conversations = Inner statements = Affirmations

This is how you form beliefs. This is how you change and replace beliefs. This is how you choose every second of the day, based on those deep impressions, beliefs, self-talk… You feel what you think, and you think what you feel.

You choose based on the P E R S P E C T I V E you have!

All of this falls under the Mindset & Manifestation process and beyond. This is how you create it. This is how you change it. You get a fixed moment, an idea in your mind and you persist in it.

Usually, you do it by bringing forward past events. Why not choose something new to focus on? Something more pleasant? Something that brings a smile?

It’s a choice, and it’s yours.

Add these statements/affirmations to your self-talk routine:

I choose to focus on new things and people that bring joy in my life. I am open to receiving more joy in my life!

Release the how and trust.

When you get to see the bigger picture of how we humans function, think and feel… everything gets easier and drama disappears, making room for new exciting things in your life. 

Allow yourself to be wrong so you can discover how is it to be right. 

Give yourself some grace while on this journey!

Choose to start your transformation!

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Attract better relationships and people

From time to time I receive messages from women telling me they want to be like me. Sending my full appreciation to all of you! This is a huge step forward to your personal growth, to recognize that you can learn more from other women. This is how I started my journey too, in my 20’s. I was always fascinated by powerful women, by people better than me, and took any occasion I had to start a conversation or just to be around them.

We learn from each other in all ways, always! This is how we grow, by having real experiences and interactions. And by releasing the ego – is how you make room for new information that can help you move forward into becoming what you want (life or business).

Transforming into something better starts with your decision to change, to grow.

Let’s continue this post by focusing on self-growth and relationships.

When you keep searching for continuous validation in relationships (and not only) you’ll keep attracting more of that need. Which will set you in a low place with yourself.

The need for external validation is happening when you don’t trust yourself. When you have low self-esteem. When you create dependency on others. When you stop dreaming. When things become empty. When you’re searching for that something but you have no idea what is it.

I will tell you what is it.

It’s YOU!

You’re searching for your true self, the one that got lost in the external need for validation that you got so addicted to.

Keeping in mind that you always find people that mirrors your internal beliefs, wouldn’t be better to start working on those beliefs? To transform?

This is why, in some cases, people end up in narcissistic relationships. Where your need for validation will be met at the beginning just to be used against you later on.

That is a moment when… you’ll either start thinking is your fault, you’re not good enough, and so on, (your low self-esteem that was there from the beginning will start to surface) OR you can get it as an opportunity to finally focus on yourself.

This makes me think that is actually a disguised opportunity to finally handle yourself. You can go down the rabbit hole with the narcissist’s challenges (keep in mind that a narcissist does all of that also from low self-esteem, deeper, but this is another discussion) and lose yourself, OR see it as an opportunity to make it work in your favor.

To start remembering that you DON’T NEED anyone’s validation to believe in yourself.

If you find yourself in this situation, do this.

 

Focus on yourself

Improve self-talk

Rebuild your confidence

Stop reacting to negative situations

Build a new belief system that will help you move forward

Keep going no matter what

Repeat

 

This is a great affirmation that you can start integrating as an assumption: 

– No matter how I feel things are always working out in my favor!

This should eliminate any resistance and help you integrate it faster – let me know how it works for you.

 

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Anxiety and panic attacks solution

Anxiety and panic attacks. My personal take on it, as always.
Audio version on my channel.
 
This might be the only post you’ll need about this topic.
When, why, and how to start taking control over it.
Anxiety happens when you feel stress, fear, or worry. High levels of these feelings lead to panic attacks. When this is happening (I’ll name a few sensations), your heartbeat is racing, your palms are sweating, muscles get tense, your breathing gets intense, and even start shaking.
A panic attack can last from 5 minutes up to hours, it depends on every one of you.
You start feeling anxious when you’re still attached to a past experience. When you fear the present. When you fear what the future holds for you, thinking that what happened will interfere.
Fear produces stress, worry, frustration, and more.
I will drop a fear definition that you might’ve heard about.
F – als
E – vidence
A – ppearing
R – eal
 
There is also good anxiety, the one you feel before a competition that you waited for, or the one that comes along with good news. It hits different. It depends on how you look at it.
This is when you get to transform anxiety into excitement.
Pro athletes use this trick every time before a competition. They transform anxiety into excitement just by saying this statement in their mind. It works always!
And I just gave you the very first thing you can start applying when feeling anxiety. Start saying: What I feel now is not anxiety but excitement. You don’t have to believe it, just say it, and make it a habit when anxiety kicks in. It will transform into an assumption, a new belief, that will help you cope better with anxiety.
 
When it comes to panic attacks, will take a bit more control and awareness, but it works. How do I know? I’ve tested it.
 
Last year I had my last panic attack. Due to some stressful events, will not get into those details now, a panic attack started, and I was shaking very badly along with all the other symptoms. I used to experience its effects for about 30 minutes, recurring during the day. I had this going on for a couple of years, from time to time. So I knew what was coming.
At that point, I had the “I’ve had enough” moment. And I said to myself “not this time, not again!”
What followed?
I went to my bedroom window, to be alone and get some air. And I was looking at my trembling hand. Lift it up a little bit more to see the movements closer and started to tense my fingers to maximum. While in my mind I was saying again and again, with anger and authority:
Not this fu**ing time! I own my body! This panic attack is stopping now and never coming back! I am in full control of my body and mind right now! I am functioning in full equilibrium! Not this time, not ever!
 
Now, you can imagine I wasn’t in my “high vibration” at that moment (and yes, I do swear sometimes when upset, which happens rarely).
What I did was take full control of that moment, and observe it. Then I used my already tensed muscles and forced them to their maximum. I also used my fast breathing until I got control of it. Didn’t bother to slow it down, but to speed it up even more.
While holding the intention to make it stop with those affirmations, statements.
 
I have never been so focused as I was in that moment, never! It was all flow and intuitive actions. It was a fast decision to stop it.
What happened next? I stopped the panic attack in under 2 minutes!
And never had another one since. After that moment I started to be very disciplined (more than before) with my habits, thoughts, and feelings which, eventually, helped me to stop reacting to things I don’t like and be more at peace with myself.
 
There is no need to get to experience a panic attack (not pleasant at all) if you get to understand what makes you anxious in the first place.
Regarding this term – Anxiety, and knowing what emotions bring forward, what if you’d start referring to those emotions and not this anxiety?
What if you’d start saying instead – I am just a bit worried (even if you might be very worried), stressed, and will pass fast? It would feel more normal and you’ll cope better. Because it is normal to go through all emotions while moving forward. Don’t get stuck on labels and terms.
 
The perspective you have on things changes everything!
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