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Why do some relationships become toxic?

Why do some relationships become toxic?

Recognizing that you have past experiences that left a mark on you, it should be normal to share when you want an open and growth oriented relationship.

It is about being aware of your issues, we all have some, and also about sharing it with your partner to find solutions.

It starts with willingness.

This requires both partners being open about it, willing, conscious, aware.

It requires good communication, which implies being able to actually listen to what the other person has to say.

It requires having self control overall to be able to share everything in a constructive manner – that will help the relationship evolve.

It cannot be forced, by one or the other. Must be natural!

-When it is forced it becomes toxic –

 

And here is where your boundaries and what you truly want comes into play.

make your choice

A special morning in my life

I have to share this one with you!!

(As it is related to the posts series about self control and lack of it, that will keep on sharing. This series started with my Sunday’s post.)

I usually don’t remember my dreams and rarely have vivid ones.

This morning I woke up after a vivid dream, remembering parts of it.

In this vivid dream I was having (what seemed to be) a long conversation with God, with Divinity as I like to call it. (same thing)

Some messages from this conversation:

 

* Emotional regulation heals the mind.

* Anger and frustration help emotional regulation if you know how to channel it, how to use all of it in order to transform it.

* And the way you write about it in your journal since a teenager, even reactions you had, is the way to emotionally regulate.

* I gave you this gift early to help yourself and others.

The feeling of this dream was loving and with a different type of calm, can’t describe it exactly yet.

For me is confirmation to proceed with this series as it’s going to help many of you on different levels.

Deeper explanations and methods will be shared in the self control guide I am getting ready to launch soon – working on it. 

Will add insights I got from this dream to it as it reinforces my work, offering a deeper layer of understanding.

What can I say? 

Is going to get interesting. 😉

 

#gratefulformyjourney

Make Your Choice

My story series – Women and respect

A few days ago, I decided to share my personal story, which happened a few years ago and led to learning self-control and self-mastery.

I will share parts of the story, as it is very long, in a non-chronological order. I am still working on it, so it’s not fully ready, yet.

Those who follow my work are already used to my writing style – authentic, inspiring, and real.

All the new ones – welcome aboard!

The next series of posts with part of my story will be shared in the same style.

Stay tuned! Is going to be interesting.

Here is the first random part.

 

“A woman can’t defend herself, or her child, without being labeled in the worst possible way?

How is this possible in today’s society?

I agree that I shouldn’t have reacted that way, and never did ‘till that point.

This shows that even the calmest people can reach their limit when pushed towards it repetitively.

This shows I am only human, and I am not flawless.

This also shows how easily a woman gets dismissed.

A Woman Is the Backbone of Society!

Women play an important, foundational role in sustaining, nurturing, and shaping families, communities, and cultures.

They often present a higher rate of emotional intelligence.

Women give Birth and/or Raise Future Generations.

They shape the values, behaviors, and well-being of these future generations.

Women keep families and communities connected and they are a source of strength and emotional support for them – through women’s amazing resilience and adaptability.

So society can evolve and thrive!

Why doesn’t a woman receive the full support from the same society?

What would a society be without women?

Would a society even exist?…

Instead, women still get suppressed and labeled without sustainable reasons.

We are not here to debate which one is the best, smartest, or most capable

 – a man or a woman.

This is a stupid move that has been going on for centuries – which created useless competition.

It needs to stop.

We are here to understand each other’s values, roles, and individuality.

To thrive together!

To accept and support women and men’s contribution to an ongoing evolving society.

A thriving society needs both of them!

Women and men.

Each with its unique values and contribution.

It always was like that, and always will be.

A man’s role has been recognized and acknowledged.

It’s time to fully acknowledge, recognize, and support a woman’s role in this society too!

I said earlier that a woman is the backbone of a society.

A man is the head of a society.

And these two are interconnected.

Back to the lesson.

 After that moment I understood I can’t force anyone to show respect, but I can refuse to be disrespected by stepping away. 

By gaining full self-control over reactions.”

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Loyalty is a two way street

How much do you value loyalty?

Here is my take.

Loyalty is a two-way street.

A reciprocal give and take.

You can’t expect to receive it if you can’t offer it. And you can’t fully offer it without receiving it.

Loyalty is one of the biggest values one can hold.

It requires integrity, and it speaks integrity.

When you don’t receive it back, the common tendency is to give even more. (this applies to many other aspects too)

This only shows you don’t have clear boundaries – which further tells the other person that it is ok to keep crossing it.

And here you get trapped in the spiral of low self-esteem, low self-worth. 

Making it about you.

Well… is Not about You!

What other people Choose to do is their full responsibility, and not yours.

 

Wake up and see the reality of what is!

Blaming yourself for other people’s choices leads nowhere.

Did I experience lack of loyalty?

Yes.

What I did further…

I stepped out with grace.

 Physically, energetically, fully. 

No regrets. No low self-esteem, no nothing.

I even took it one step further and wished them well, also said thank you

and I meant it.

I am not here to compete with ‘the other woman’. Hell no!

Never did, never will.

Let him have her, really. Let him.

He did you a big favor by showing you who he is. 

Accept it and move on.

The answer to why some people choose to do this

Is simple and obvious

Lack

Of

Integrity

Weak values

Lack of self-control

So, do you really want to waste your time and energy with ‘fixing’ this person?

Not your effing job!

What IS your ‘job’ in this situation?

 

* Set clear boundaries and follow through.

*Build your confidence to last.

*Gain self-control to manage every situation with ease and grace.

*Gain self-mastery to fully express your authentic self in every situation.

 

Live in your full Power!

——-

Whatever side of loyalty you are

 

🌟 The HU 2.0 program is going to help you transform all that, and more.

All you have to do is to send me a message.

——-

*Warning*

🌟 This program is Not for everybody.

If you are not willing to fully commit and face your fears in order to solve it – don’t bother.

What I teach is real-life effective methods that are going to fully transform you, not just knowledge from books.

Have a good one! 🙏

 

FIND YOUR PERFECT FIT

How often do you feel overwhelmed?

How often do you feel overwhelmed?

I’ve been there, and this is common especially when running a business but not only.

 

* Having tons of tasks to do daily.

* Feeling like time is too short.

* Never finish all you had on your daily to-do list.

* Thinking that there must be something you’re doing wrong.

* Thinking that you have to do even more than you’re already doing.

* Results are not always so great even though you work hard.

* Saying yes to everything.

 

All of this it’s a trap. A mental trap!

That will keep spinning – unless you decide firmly to stop it.

Again, this can be applied to personal life too.

Let me tell you this. The moment I understood that all of this was created by mental blocks and started to create the mindset shift in this direction… 

Everything changed!

I got full clarity. 

I started to focus on priorities more. 

My daily to-do list got easier to implement.

Always found time to relax also.

I got to enjoy every moment of it.

The outcome is completely different, way better, when you operate from a clear and balanced place.

When you calm down the inner noise and replace it with clarity and focus, everything else just flows.

And this is what gaining self-control feels like.

Another realization I had, is that you have to learn when to let go. 

Not everything is up to you to do.

You have to trust the process.

Your inner energy dictates your results and further actions!

So start here. 

Regulate your thoughts and emotions. 

And you’ll be amazed by the results you get!

I believe overwhelm comes from thinking that you have to do it all by yourself. 

From not trusting your inner energy.

From an unbalanced energy.

This is where mental blocks form and all the burden that comes with it.

Now you know it is Possible to release all of that.

Mindset mastery is the answer.

 

Still confused about what to do next?

Message me.

 

It’s Time to escape from that mental cage you got yourself into.

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A fascinating fact about the power of words and emotions

We’re around 60% water. Keep this in mind as you read further.

Through his water experiment, Dr. Masaru Emoto proved that water has consciousness, therefore feelings.

In his experiment, Emoto exposed water to different spoken and written words, both positive and negative, and to music.

Then, the water was frozen and examined under a microscope.

Emoto’s observation was that the crystals formed from the water exposed to positive intentions, had beautiful, symmetrical patterns.

While those formed from the water exposed to negative intentions, had chaotic patterns.

The conclusion is simple. 

If our human body is around 60% water, where only the brain and heart have 73% water, this means one thing:

The way you speak to Yourself, the intentions you hold, will influence Your health, emotions and thoughts.

Knowing this, what do you think happens within you when you hold on to a stressful, negative experience?

Knowing this, don’t you think it’s worth it to start or continue working on yourself?

Make this transformation your priority, you will thank yourself later.

And I can give you the shortcuts to live a balanced and harmonious life, while eliminating mental and emotional blocks.

Send a message if you feel ready to continue your journey with me.

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Why I started as a coach. Story time.

Some of you asked what inspired me to become a coach.
 
Here is my answer.
Guiding people, giving them aha moments and solutions, changing their perspective, and changing their overall life for the better – is something I have done ever since I was a teenager.
It comes naturally to me and I love doing it.
 
As the years went by, and going through my own challenges and life experiences – I significantly improved my skills.
To the point where I gained self-control over my thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. Which led to self-mastery.
 
Think of self-control as if it’s a button, that you can switch on/off whenever is needed.
Thinking back to when I had my first “coaching session”…
 
I was 15 years old. My parents used to fight a lot, until one day when I saw them fighting again. They were in the kitchen. I walked in there, calm, and separated them.
While I hopped on the kitchen counter, one was sitting at the table, the other one at the window (I was in the middle). And started to ask them questions about their marriage.
When I saw they kept contradicting every thing the other one said, I asked them a final question:
 
– Why don’t you divorce? It seems a good solution for you.
They were shocked.
That was the moment when complete silence settled down. It was out of the question!
From that moment, all was peaceful. For a short period, until they got back to old habits.
 
 
Changing a bad habit takes practice, and through practice it becomes a lifestyle, your identity.
 
You can’t say:
– Well, I’ve tried 1-2 times, it doesn’t work for me!
 
To create that bad habit you took plenty of time, and lots of practice to make it part of your life. Years upon years.
 
You might not break it in just a week or maybe a month.
Depending on where you’re at, it will take time to change and replace a bad habit.
And this is different for each of you.
 
And by bad habit I mean – negative thinking, overreacting, overthinking, not knowing how to regulate emotions or thoughts, impulsiveness, not being able to control reactions, lack of awareness, not being able to focus, etc.
In 2020 I’ve decided to come forward and create a business out of my passion. Which I did.
Since then, I have been helping people worldwide with an incredible success rate.
 
People come to me when they need to overcome a stressful situation, improve relationships, become more confident, get a business consultation, get mindset mastery.
People come to me when they want a different life, when they get tired of running in circles.
In short, people come to me to gain self-control, mindset mastery, self-mastery.
 
Why do my shortcuts work?
They are created during real-life and business challenges.
I am authentic.
I don’t like wasting anyone’s time or money.
 
Remember this rule always:
Personal or/and Business Success is built through mindset mastery!
90 % mindset – 10% action.
 
🌟 If you are ready to join me, here is how you can do it:
Email consulting
Call consulting
Exclusive community
Human Upgrade 2.0 (HU 2.0) program
 
HU 2.0 program is the most potent one.
Within this program you get my daily support to reach your destination.
You also have the option to join for a week only, or more, up to 3+ months.
 
What clients say about my work:
 
“Was very stress releasing.”
 
“My perception has certainly shifted, but this method has allowed me to release.”
 
“I am happy to participate in your program.”
 
“Only want to continue to embark in all that you are teaching me. It’s really helpful.”
 
“You are the best!!”
 
More info and success stories here on my website.
 
You can message me if you have questions.
 
Are you in?
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Are you a high-value person?

So many people consider themselves being high-value without even understanding what this means.
High-value doesn’t equal high success aka money and that’s it. It goes deeper than that.
A high-value woman will never ask how to act as high-value in a conversation. She just is.
A high-value man doesn’t lead the conversation through his assets, achievements.
But through emotional intelligence, presence, awareness.

And the list is so long here.
As I was saying in another post, people love lebels.
So they just use them, without a real understanding of the actual meaning.
Just to impress.
This goes both sides, men and women.

And then they wonder – why am I so unhappy with…
Simple, because you created a fake identity.

From another point of view, it’s ok if you are not a high-value woman or man yet.
At least own it and get to work if that is what you really want.

Be aware of your choices and own it!
You can always change what you don’t like.

The real question is:
Do you know what you don’t like? About others or about yourself?

FIND YOUR PERFECT FIT

A Message to WOMEN

A Message for Women

 

  • Love yourself more.
  • Activate that confidence.
  • Become aware of your beauty.
  • Stay kind.
  • Do the inner work.
  • Stop chasing men.
  • Value a man’s emotional maturity and intelligence, core values, and Not his status.
  • Release what doesn’t serve you on all levels.
  • Discover and rediscover Who you are or who you want to be.
  • Stop chasing money.
  • Balance your feminine energy inside out.
  • Keep your grace in every situation.
  • Cherish privacy.
  • Respect yourself first if you want to be respected.
  • Lean into your intuition.
  • Keep an open mind always.
  • Keep learning.
  • Other women are not your enemy.
  • Stop competing.
  • Aim to achieve self-control and self mastery.
  • Learn when to talk and when to listen.
  • Keep note of your reactions and improve.
  • Become more aware.
  • Seek inner peace and inner balance.
  • Be mindful of your everyday habits.
  • Practice self-care.
  • Be sexy and not vulgar.
  • Cherish your loved ones.
  • Know when to remove yourself from a situation.
  • Less is more in every aspect.
  • Have healthy boundaries in place.
  • Fight for your dreams.
  • Do business with integrity if you choose so.
  • Lead through inspiration.
  • Be more feminine.
  • Be a Femina. (woman in Latin)
  • Be who you want to be at a core level.
  • Stop searching for validation from the wrong people.
  • Aim for real value and connection.
  • Be authentic.
  • Cultivate a strong mindset.
  • Learn to emotionally regulate.
  • Keep your spirit high.
  • Honor your personal growth.
  • Be patient.
  • You got this!

Join an exclusive community to learn more.

Step into a space designed for growth and transformation.

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Conversations with Alex

 

Conversations with Alex (my son)

He just started school after 3 weeks of winter vacation.

We have a deal, one of many, where he gets to skip school on less busy days, from time to time. (“bad” mom lol – I hope his teacher doesn’t see this)

A few days ago, while I was at my laptop, he told me to give him a hug. (His hugs are usually not free)

I hugged him of course, and asked:

 – I know this hug wasn’t free, what do you want?

 – Well… with a smirk on his face… Remember our deal about skipping school? I want to skip tomorrow.

This was happening after the first day of school, after vacation… (lol)

So I told him no, duh.

Of course he kept going. (quite persistent when he wants something)

I tried to explain to him that we need balance in our deals, and why he can’t do this yet.

He didn’t like it, but was cool in the end.

I just let him express his anger (“I will never hug you again!” or do this, and that – and I agree with everything he says), holding my smile back lol (he’s so cute when he gets angry). 

Knowing he will calm down eventually and understand.

Which always happens. 

When he’s calm we talk again to make sure he’s ok. (and have free hugs lol)

 

Understanding balance in everything we do and the importance of allowing negative emotions to surface, in order to solve it, starts at a young age.

 

If you didn’t have that as a child (I know I didn’t) you can train yourself in doing so.

 

Yesterday his lovely teacher sent me an amazing message about his school accomplishments.

 

He is top at school and effortlessly.

So proud of him, in all aspects!

And I make sure to let him know often.

Acknowledgment of even the smallest things, not just the big ones, is important.

So, it’s easy to create deals with him, and is always a win-win setting.

 

PS: In the upcoming premium community I’ll share even more valuable insights about all aspects of life. Stay tuned!

 

Have a great week! 😉

 

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