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Lost in Lust

Lost in lust

The easiest thing one can do. Something that never brought long-term satisfaction. It’s “useful” when you want to forget your loneliness, when you don’t want to face what you actually desire from life or yourself, when you want fast satisfaction. 

Or to feel wanted, seen… to receive immediate gratification. While you completely ignore the deeper layer of why you’re searching for continuous approval and appreciation from these shallow connections.

It’s easy to get lost in lust when you don’t want to admit the relationship (marriage) you’re in doesn’t spark your life anymore, or that maybe it never did.

It’s easy to get lost in lust when you have no idea of what a deeper connection would be like because you didn’t experience it yet.

 

The higher the number the greater the satisfaction… 

For who? It means nothing even for you – if you’re being honest with yourself. 

The more shallow connections you experience the less you want them further. Sooner or later is going to happen, is part of the process.

 

This is how you start implementing the belief that men, and women, don’t want a serious relationship. Or that men, women, will always disappoint. 

And this belief influences your behavior which reflects your reality. Behaviour is driven by beliefs and this will get you in situations where you’ll experience the same thing over and over again. The same pattern. 

So, you find it easier to get lost in lust. Again.

 

Your RAS (reticular activating system) does this. Will search for the pattern you implemented to confirm it. RAS is a network of neurons in your brain that filters information, what gets in and out – programmed by you and people around you.

 

There is a reason behind every action, not always obvious indeed. It starts with a statement (affirmation), which later gets implemented as an assumption (belief), through repetitive self-talk in regard to a particular situation.

In this case, your internal dialog is:

“Why bother, this is all they want anyway, so I’ll give them what they want. Real connections don’t exist, they will always disappoint.”

These are statements. Affirmations. And your RAS does the work further.

 

What can you do about it?

 

Take the time to observe your thoughts and feelings. 

Take the time to spot your limiting beliefs. And reset your beliefs to get into new experiences, more meaningful ones.

Take the time to master your emotions and thoughts while deciding how your life is going to be.

Take the time to recreate your identity.

What you build based on chemistry only is not solid for your growth, nor for the person involved.

Mixing chemistry with alchemy IS.

 

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Denisa

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Manifest a High-Value Relationship

You want to be seen by your partner

You want to be heard

You want to be understood

You want to be loved, cherished, desired, appreciated, supported, safe. 

You want a love relationship that can feed your mind, body, and soul.

 

Who doesn’t want this type of relationship?

Though, just a few are willing to put in the work to get there.

 

And here you are, ending up in the wrong relationships most times, asking yourself:

Why do I attract what I don’t want in a relationship? Why do others find real love and I don’t?

Questions that lead to low confidence, feeling lonely, sad, angry… Which will only attract more of what you don’t want.

Forcing yourself to get into the ideal relationship you desire can cause a lot of emotional imbalance. Which can lead to making bad choices in regard to your partners, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and more.

What to do to be in a high-value relationship:

1 – You have to stop comparing yourself with others.

2 – Become more feminine if you are a woman, and more masculine if you are a man.

3 – Work on your confidence – this is going to be the sexiest outfit you’ll ever wear.

4 – Set rules and boundaries. Decide clearly what you want and what you don’t.

5 – Master your emotions and thoughts.

6 – Work on your triggers.

7 – Be yourself.

 

There must be a balance between masculine and feminine always to build healthy relationships. 

And this requires self-growth.

It’s not enough to be successful to get your special partner. If you want the whole “package” you have to become it too.

So, instead of chasing partner no 555, have a break and take this time for yourself, to start a different journey, a more pleasant one.

Let me tell you a secret, you can get there fast.

Try this affirmation:

I can’t wait to experience the best relationship ever! I choose to experience the best relationship ever right now!

How would you describe a high-value relationship?

 

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Denisa

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Master Your Emotions

Emotions and thoughts MASTERY is the K E Y to satisfaction in your life.

 

 

Thoughts and emotions are always interconnected. 

What you feel sparks thoughts. What you think sparks feelings.

Conscious or not, it’s happening. 

When you master emotions, thoughts become clear and easy to transform.

When you master thoughts, emotions become clear and easy to transform.

 

This is how good energy flows through your body and mind which influences your health too.

 

Positive energy = emotions and thoughts mastery

Y O U  A R E  the A L C H E M I S T  of your life!

 

Imagine…

 

How it would be like to release and transform any stressful situation on the spot

How it would be like to feel good about yourself in any situation

How it would be like to know how to work with your subconscious mind

How it would be like to navigate through negative emotions and thoughts fast

How it would be like to be able to stop yourself before reacting and regain balance in minutes

How it would be like to communicate your desires with confidence and grace

How it would be like to build meaningful relationships with ease

How it would be like to know when to be in control and… when to let go

 

How it would be like?

 

Self-mastery is an  A R T ready to be expressed.

 

You can start by implementing this assumption:

Whatever comes into my life I can navigate it naturally!

 

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Denisa

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Emotional Reset or Shadow Work

Being vulnerable holds so much P O W E R!

Accepting that as a human being you also have bad days, negative thoughts, unfulfilled wishes, frustrations… is the start of real transformation. All of us do. And it’s ok.

When you feel triggered by a certain situation or person (someone’s success, beauty, friends, luck, car, house, business, lifestyle, happiness…) stop before reacting, and ask yourself – What part of me wants what they have? What can I do to have it too? What can I do to change how I feel?

By doing so, you get yourself out of scarcity, of the negative thought that you can’t have it, or be it.

Accept that negative side of you and address it. 

You can write it down or speak about it with someone you trust. 

Express it, emphasize it, feel it. 

Be vulnerable if you want to release this old pattern and replace it with something new, one that can improve your life on many levels.

You can call it shadow work. I like to call it emotional reset, or emotional restart.

The more you repress what you really feel the more those emotions will want to surface. Don’t wait for an explosion, address it and then replace it.

When you accept this part of yourself as well you are getting ready to become what you really want, to heal. Repressed emotions will express in your body eventually.

“If an inferiority is conscious, one always has a chance to correct it.” – Carl Jung

You can use this affirmation:

I deeply and completely accept myself!

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Check-in with Your Brain Waves To Create The Life You Want

Check-in with your brain waves

 

Beta. The state when you’re alert, doing your daily tasks.

Alpha. The state of light relaxation. When you take a break for a cup of coffee, or tea, or to enjoy a stunning nature view.

Theta. This is where your creative power starts. In this state you create what you want faster, you impress your subconscious mind faster. This is the state when you’re in deep relaxation, feeling drowsy. Or in SATS (state akin to sleep). 

You get in T H E T A state a few times a day. Under the shower, before you fall asleep, and right before you wake up. As a few examples.

Theta is also the state where hypnosis happens. This is how you get into self-hypnosis, by inducing a theta state. All of us can do it.

Delta – When you’re in a deep sleep. The healing state I like to call it, is where you’re body regenerates. 

Let’s throw on top the fifth one, Gamma waves. Is the state where you are intensely focused on something, the learning state.

What if you’ll get that intense thought from Gamma and bring it to Theta? You’ll get what is called focused meditation. It takes practice to keep the focus but is so worth it.

 

Back to Theta state.

 

Some business owners that run multiple 7-8 figures use this state to create solutions when they’re stuck on a problem.

Einstein, Edison, Salvador Dali, and others used it for creation, and to figure out their next steps. Without all of the information we have access to right now, they did it intuitively.

You can use it too! Theta is the manifestation state. The creative state!

What do you want to create for your business or personal life? Start practicing.

Start napping with intention. Do it for 5 to 10 minutes a day, get in theta state.

Use this assumption:

It’s so natural for me to get all the answers I want every time I want!

 

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Is he the one? Is she the one?

Is he the one? Is she the one?

Society teaches you to get married within a certain age, otherwise, you won’t fit in. People might consider there is something wrong with you, isn’t it? Well, it depends on what matters most for you – to “fit in” or to live a joyful life where you feel at peace with yourself…

Having this relationship idea implemented in your subconscious mind becomes your no 1 priority, your life goal. This is exactly why you can’t enjoy and explore relationships, why you hurry and jump into relationships that eventually you discover they’re not a match. You get carried away by the first spark you have with a person wondering every time you meet someone new: 

Is he the one? Is she the one?

You’re looking for guarantees in the other person without even knowing what you actually want. Thinking that compliments received are always enough, thinking that having chemistry is enough to move further on, thinking… that the first person that tells you: “I like you” is The One. All because you have planted this deep belief that you have to get married asap, to… fit in.

Let me tell you something else, not even love is enough to take this decision. 

I said, what I said. And is true. 

Just have a look at the breakup percentage of people in love that got married after the first “I love you”… it doesn’t look good at all.

To be able to decide consciously if you should get married or not, you’ll have to take into consideration other similarities between you two. Like religion, friendships, family perspective, kid’s perspective, relationship concept, career, childhood story, and any other life perspective you might want to know about. 

Again, having a spark, chemistry, or even love for each other is not enough to decide to build a strong long-term relationship.

When you dismiss this marriage belief and focus more on who you want to become, what you want to do with your life, what you’re dreams are… you’ll be able to enjoy relationships at a different level, a more conscious level.

Where you’ll not be asking yourself every time you meet someone if he or she’s the one.

Where you’ll enjoy every moment as it comes without pressure or feeling unwanted.

Where you’ll value yourself and you’re beliefs.

Where you’ll be able to offer more and learn how to receive back as well.

Where you’ll have boundaries in place, but also respect your partner’s boundaries with ease.

Where everything flows, regardless the outcome.

Where you can have an equal give and take on all levels.

Don’t let your life be ruled by this one question – Is he the one? Is she the one? You’ll add unnecessary stress and pressure to your life.

Enjoy the people you accept. Don’t set a timer on them. Will be for one week? One month? One year? A lifetime?

Who knows?

Nothing and nobody can guarantee how long a person will be part of your life. Not even marriage. So, give yourself some break and enjoy moments as they come.

Release this belief that doesn’t bring you joy but pressure. Life has other wonderful things to offer and to focus on, you just need a different perspective. 

Reset your mindset.

Get to know yourself better first, before getting to know someone else.

Use this affirmation and integrate it as an assumption:

I know who I am and what I want, and this is reflected in my life every day in every way!

If you want me to help you in your transformational journey, let’s connect!

 

Have a magical week,

Denisa

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Release fear of rejection

Acting indifferent when you care is the same as pretending you care when you don’t. 

Who or what makes the difference?

People overcomplicate things when it comes to relationships. Short or long terms ones, doesn’t matter. They are afraid to show what they feel, and what they want, creating different scenarios due to overthinking. To eventually discover that it wasn’t at all as they thought after taking action on the situation.

Fear of rejection is a big one and many people experience it, especially when it comes to relationships. Lack of confidence as well. 

From here the overthinking process starts. And continues. And continues… Until you find the courage, the confidence to actually act on what you want. Or, until you miss the chance to actually get an answer – considering afterward how unlucky you are.

People love overcomplicating things… 

My point here? Work on your fears and confidence always. You are not alone in this process. The only difference between people getting what they want and those that aren’t is simply the choice of acting on it, or not. Is having a healthy mindset in place – which covers all aspects of living a better life.

When you want to create conscious relationships you have to act consciously about it. This includes getting comfortable with saying no if needed, but also with receiving a no. There are always new chapters to explore.

This is an affirmation you can use to release fear of rejection:

It’s so easy and natural for me to release fear of rejection!

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Emotion Is More Powerful Than Thought

Emotion is more powerful than thought. This doesn’t mean that thought can’t influence emotion. It does.

Emotion allows you to empathize with other humans, to create new connections, new friendships, new relationships. Of course, you can decide to connect by thought alone with others, based on personal interest, but we all know this was never the best decision to follow as they are ending fast, plus it doesn’t bring real personal fulfillment.

Emotion is what changes your mindset. You take decisions based on how you feel, and when emotions are not balanced then you may say – it wasn’t a good choice to act on your feelings.

The rule should be simple, if it feels good it is good. If not, it’s not. 

In between those two confusion can interfere.  Where “confusion” is fear, ego, and/or low self-esteem. Which makes it difficult to make the right decision, right?

This is the moment when you learn how to become neutral, to reset. You can get into this state by breathing deeply a few times, to detach from emotions and thoughts.

When in a neutral state you can bring forward the matter you need to decide on. Pay attention to the first impressions you get because that is your answer.

And I just told you how you can access Intuition.

In = inside

Tuition comes from Latin tueri = to guard. Tuition also means care, protection – same thing.

Intuition is your internal protection and guidance. Which I associate with spirit connection, divine connection, or God’s connection – call it as you want.

I don’t intend to teach Latin in this post, but this brings more clarity. Spirit word origin comes also from the Latin spiritus, which means breath.

A simple conclusion from this is that you connect with your inner guidance through breath. And your inner guidance is in your heart.

The heart’s electrical field is about 60 times greater in amplitude than the electrical activity generated by the brain. The electromagnetic energy field of the heart is 5000 times greater than the brain. This means your heart will pick up answers faster than your brain can.

Emotions rule thoughts! Emotions can take over your thoughts faster than thoughts can influence emotions.

When you’re manifesting getting in the feeling of it is what makes it happen.

As N. Goddard says – Feeling is the secret!

 

Talk soon,

Denisa

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Build a life you love! Rewire your brain.

The science of our ability to rewire our thoughts and feelings is called Neuroplasticity.

Neuroplasticity is the brain’s ability to change and adapt as a result of experience.

Neuroplasticity = the capacity of neurons and neural networks in the brain to change their connections and behavior in response to new information, sensory stimulation, development, damage, or dysfunction.

Neural pathways are strengthened into habits through the repetition and practice of thinking, feeling, and acting.

This is how you rewire your brain, through repetition. This is how you always learned a new skill since you were a child. Through repetition.

Once you learned something new will go into your subconscious mind, which means you’ll do that specific thing on autopilot – walk, talk, drive, act, think, behave…

Now, ask yourself, what do you want to transform in your life? 

Choose that thought, make it an affirmation and start repeating it.

What behavior do you want to replace? 

What habit?

What situation?

Take a minimum of 10 minutes a day to practice.

Choose mindfully what you want and create a life you love!

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Denisa

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Beliefs drive behavior. Behavior builds beliefs.

“When you change the way you look at things, things you look at change” – Wayne Dyer

Such a simple but powerful quote that summarizes everything you need to be able to change your life.

Changing how you look at things, which is your perspective about a particular situation, is helping you achieve a high-level mindset. A healthy mindset.

For example, if you’re thinking that you always get into relationships where you’re being used, you’ll end up with partners that will do just that.

Beliefs drive behavior. Behavior builds beliefs.

This deeper belief (assumption) that you have is modifying your behavior, conscious or not, which leads to this outcome – getting in relationships where you’re being used.

Or, if you think that everybody you meet is going away from your life sooner or later.

Men or women you meet are all the same, they don’t want meaningful relationships.

Partners you meet stay with you just for your money. Or, true love doesn’t exist.

The list can continue…

The conclusion is that your beliefs about a specific situation form a specific behavior towards people around you. 

When you change your perspective about that specific situation, your behavior will adapt as well. Which leads to your desired outcome.

hat negative belief to be able to change it. Or, you don’t know exactly how to apply it in your favor.

If you are in this situation, I am here to guide you.

It seems simple because it is simple!

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