Good manipulation in action 😄
Good manipulation in action 😄
Yesterday I took full advantage of its importance.
Here in Romania, it was also Mother’s Day, not just Women’s Day.
Anyway, I told my son – I am taking the day for myself (lol). And that I want to spend 1h with him.
*He likes it when I am taking days for myself, he gets to do what he wants as well.
I also said – that he is not allowed to say no, and he must do what I ask him to.
His expression was like… “it is what it is”. Hahaha
I told him I didn’t want to spend his money on gifts, but I wanted something special, made by him – that would express what I meant to him. Writing or drawing, whatever he wanted. (teaching him to express what he feels)
I also invited him to have a little talk (here is where good manipulation took place…).
Something we don’t do as often as I wish, ’cause he’s a ‘busy guy’ – kids.
Full advantage on.
We talked about respect, appreciation, and about how important it is to express what we feel, to show it. That is normal and natural to do it.
Not only on special days but on any other day. (as he was calculating months left until my birthday lol)
I took it further, in the girls’ zone.
Explaining that he needs to apply it with every girl from his circle (respect and appreciation).
Especially with his future girlfriends.
Here I talked about what he will experience when he will like a girl – body sensations, emotions…
The beauty of it – but pushed it more in the self control zone, to respect boundaries, to interpret reactions.
Gave him a few examples, and made it fun.
It was a light conversation, and he was all smiles – something like “I heard something on TikTok” type of expression lol.
(‘Cause 11+ kid, heading to puberty fast.)
We have had these girls’ conversations since he was very young, 3 I guess.
Now, we took it to the next level. Preparing him for what’s coming.
It’s working. He is amazing with girls!
I remember a nice moment… he was around 8 years old when he had his first official girlfriend.
We were in the park, she arrived later on.
He came to me to ask for some money.
I asked what he needed for – he told me he wanted to do something, and that he will tell me later.
I executed his wish lol
Moments later, he was next to his girlfriend holding a red rose…
That was such a precious moment, he was so shy but there doing it.
Not sure if I got a photo of that moment – I will search for it.
Other kids, myself, parents… we were in awe! It was a beautiful, surprising moment…
(this had a ripple effect on other girls from his group, making him an example 😉)
Back to yesterday
*All of that discussion made me realize the low percentage of men, adult men, having these values towards women in their lives.
Education in this direction starts at a young age.
Or, if you didn’t get the chance, later on.
You can learn it anytime and apply it.
After our little talk, he went straight to his desk, excited, and created this drawing for me – see the picture.
A few moments later, after hugs and kisses, we got out.
Minding our things separately.
Something I also taught him since young – detachment from me.
When he gets out the door he doesn’t need me. (maybe some money and that’s it lool)
Overall, it was a great day! 🌟
What do you teach your kid(s) as a conscious parent?
