The other side of a Family

Doesn’t always mean blood family (parents, siblings).

Sad but true.

In some cases, including mine, the biggest disappointments come from people you consider close. 

Your family, your spouse, your partner, or friends.

Toxicity has many labels, most known is the narc trait.

They are just that, labels. I gave up labels long ago. Definitions, titles, labels… don’t help.

Meanings do.

When you get to understand on a deeper level, that the way others decide to live their life is not up to you or because of you,

You step into a different you, a different identity where You get to choose how you live life, independent from others’ choices or actions.

Only at this moment will you start releasing what doesn’t serve you anymore, and make room for better experiences and people to step in.

I believe there are 2 categories of people who

1 – Get hurt and hurt others as a result

2 – Get hurt and choose to become better

And this choice belongs to each of us!

We all feel hurt by one experience or another, what truly matters is your next choice. 

Because that choice leads to actions, and actions bring results.

Good or less good. Depending on the intentions you hold. 

Not what you say to others, but the true intentions you hold. This is how you make choices.

Where intentions are formed based on personal experiences and the meaning You give them.

Example:

X experience happened because I was/am unsupported, guilty, or worthless.

Or

X experience happened because I am learning to fully accept myself as I am, and to become my greatest version in all I do.

This creates Human ART, as I like to call it.

Accept. Release. Transform.

Which leads to owning who you truly are, your authentic self in all ways.

Here comes the juicy part.

When you become ART – you can easily dismiss what doesn’t serve you (close people included) with grace and ease.

No resentment attached, no why me, no nothing.

You just are. 

Clear. Balanced. Authentic.

A real Human Being.

The purest souls I have ever seen are kids.

Having my son showed me what authentic, pure love, and humane means. The greatest gift I ever received is him – also, a huge part of my transformation.

(I dedicated a whole chapter in my ebook to this journey – read it for free in my group)

On the flip side

Have to say though, some adults are simply… 

F***ed up! Lol

They refuse to understand some simple, basic rules of life. Here I am talking about category no 1 mentioned above. Just a short observation.

But hey, this is… their Choice. I had “the chance” to meet some too.

I made a conscious choice long ago – to allow Only things that reflect authenticity, humanity, pure intentions, real values, and integrity.

One of the best choices I’ve made!

Living like this allows you to cut BS with ease. To master yourself.

If this means close people, family (parents, siblings), so be it.

Your soul family awaits.

I made a MMA for the word family, check it out to understand its real values.

Make a promise to yourself to walk your talk. While you keep improving that talk.

Being authentic doesn’t equal being perfect. But embracing imperfection as it comes.

Curious to know my story and how I navigated through it? In this ebook, I don’t hold back on anything.

Read The Journal of Human Emotions ebook. (multiple books in one)

Curious to know what led to my full self-control, and self-mastery?

Get the self-control Blueprint guide.

You can do it too! Make your choice.

This was my Saturday reflection.