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Loyalty is a two way street

How much do you value loyalty?

Here is my take.

Loyalty is a two-way street.

A reciprocal give and take.

You can’t expect to receive it if you can’t offer it. And you can’t fully offer it without receiving it.

Loyalty is one of the biggest values one can hold.

It requires integrity, and it speaks integrity.

When you don’t receive it back, the common tendency is to give even more. (this applies to many other aspects too)

This only shows you don’t have clear boundaries – which further tells the other person that it is ok to keep crossing it.

And here you get trapped in the spiral of low self-esteem, low self-worth. 

Making it about you.

Well… is Not about You!

What other people Choose to do is their full responsibility, and not yours.

 

Wake up and see the reality of what is!

Blaming yourself for other people’s choices leads nowhere.

Did I experience lack of loyalty?

Yes.

What I did further…

I stepped out with grace.

 Physically, energetically, fully. 

No regrets. No low self-esteem, no nothing.

I even took it one step further and wished them well, also said thank you

and I meant it.

I am not here to compete with ‘the other woman’. Hell no!

Never did, never will.

Let him have her, really. Let him.

He did you a big favor by showing you who he is. 

Accept it and move on.

The answer to why some people choose to do this

Is simple and obvious

Lack

Of

Integrity

Weak values

Lack of self-control

So, do you really want to waste your time and energy with ‘fixing’ this person?

Not your effing job!

What IS your ‘job’ in this situation?

 

* Set clear boundaries and follow through.

*Build your confidence to last.

*Gain self-control to manage every situation with ease and grace.

*Gain self-mastery to fully express your authentic self in every situation.

 

Live in your full Power!

——-

Whatever side of loyalty you are

 

🌟 The HU 2.0 program is going to help you transform all that, and more.

All you have to do is to send me a message.

——-

*Warning*

🌟 This program is Not for everybody.

If you are not willing to fully commit and face your fears in order to solve it – don’t bother.

What I teach is real-life effective methods that are going to fully transform you, not just knowledge from books.

Have a good one! 🙏

 

FIND YOUR PERFECT FIT

A fascinating fact about the power of words and emotions

We’re around 60% water. Keep this in mind as you read further.

Through his water experiment, Dr. Masaru Emoto proved that water has consciousness, therefore feelings.

In his experiment, Emoto exposed water to different spoken and written words, both positive and negative, and to music.

Then, the water was frozen and examined under a microscope.

Emoto’s observation was that the crystals formed from the water exposed to positive intentions, had beautiful, symmetrical patterns.

While those formed from the water exposed to negative intentions, had chaotic patterns.

The conclusion is simple. 

If our human body is around 60% water, where only the brain and heart have 73% water, this means one thing:

The way you speak to Yourself, the intentions you hold, will influence Your health, emotions and thoughts.

Knowing this, what do you think happens within you when you hold on to a stressful, negative experience?

Knowing this, don’t you think it’s worth it to start or continue working on yourself?

Make this transformation your priority, you will thank yourself later.

And I can give you the shortcuts to live a balanced and harmonious life, while eliminating mental and emotional blocks.

Send a message if you feel ready to continue your journey with me.

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Why I started as a coach. Story time.

Some of you asked what inspired me to become a coach.
 
Here is my answer.
Guiding people, giving them aha moments and solutions, changing their perspective, and changing their overall life for the better – is something I have done ever since I was a teenager.
It comes naturally to me and I love doing it.
 
As the years went by, and going through my own challenges and life experiences – I significantly improved my skills.
To the point where I gained self-control over my thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. Which led to self-mastery.
 
Think of self-control as if it’s a button, that you can switch on/off whenever is needed.
Thinking back to when I had my first “coaching session”…
 
I was 15 years old. My parents used to fight a lot, until one day when I saw them fighting again. They were in the kitchen. I walked in there, calm, and separated them.
While I hopped on the kitchen counter, one was sitting at the table, the other one at the window (I was in the middle). And started to ask them questions about their marriage.
When I saw they kept contradicting every thing the other one said, I asked them a final question:
 
– Why don’t you divorce? It seems a good solution for you.
They were shocked.
That was the moment when complete silence settled down. It was out of the question!
From that moment, all was peaceful. For a short period, until they got back to old habits.
 
 
Changing a bad habit takes practice, and through practice it becomes a lifestyle, your identity.
 
You can’t say:
– Well, I’ve tried 1-2 times, it doesn’t work for me!
 
To create that bad habit you took plenty of time, and lots of practice to make it part of your life. Years upon years.
 
You might not break it in just a week or maybe a month.
Depending on where you’re at, it will take time to change and replace a bad habit.
And this is different for each of you.
 
And by bad habit I mean – negative thinking, overreacting, overthinking, not knowing how to regulate emotions or thoughts, impulsiveness, not being able to control reactions, lack of awareness, not being able to focus, etc.
In 2020 I’ve decided to come forward and create a business out of my passion. Which I did.
Since then, I have been helping people worldwide with an incredible success rate.
 
People come to me when they need to overcome a stressful situation, improve relationships, become more confident, get a business consultation, get mindset mastery.
People come to me when they want a different life, when they get tired of running in circles.
In short, people come to me to gain self-control, mindset mastery, self-mastery.
 
Why do my shortcuts work?
They are created during real-life and business challenges.
I am authentic.
I don’t like wasting anyone’s time or money.
 
Remember this rule always:
Personal or/and Business Success is built through mindset mastery!
90 % mindset – 10% action.
 
🌟 If you are ready to join me, here is how you can do it:
Email consulting
Call consulting
Exclusive community
Human Upgrade 2.0 (HU 2.0) program
 
HU 2.0 program is the most potent one.
Within this program you get my daily support to reach your destination.
You also have the option to join for a week only, or more, up to 3+ months.
 
What clients say about my work:
 
“Was very stress releasing.”
 
“My perception has certainly shifted, but this method has allowed me to release.”
 
“I am happy to participate in your program.”
 
“Only want to continue to embark in all that you are teaching me. It’s really helpful.”
 
“You are the best!!”
 
More info and success stories here on my website.
 
You can message me if you have questions.
 
Are you in?
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Conversations with Alex

 

Conversations with Alex (my son)

He just started school after 3 weeks of winter vacation.

We have a deal, one of many, where he gets to skip school on less busy days, from time to time. (“bad” mom lol – I hope his teacher doesn’t see this)

A few days ago, while I was at my laptop, he told me to give him a hug. (His hugs are usually not free)

I hugged him of course, and asked:

 – I know this hug wasn’t free, what do you want?

 – Well… with a smirk on his face… Remember our deal about skipping school? I want to skip tomorrow.

This was happening after the first day of school, after vacation… (lol)

So I told him no, duh.

Of course he kept going. (quite persistent when he wants something)

I tried to explain to him that we need balance in our deals, and why he can’t do this yet.

He didn’t like it, but was cool in the end.

I just let him express his anger (“I will never hug you again!” or do this, and that – and I agree with everything he says), holding my smile back lol (he’s so cute when he gets angry). 

Knowing he will calm down eventually and understand.

Which always happens. 

When he’s calm we talk again to make sure he’s ok. (and have free hugs lol)

 

Understanding balance in everything we do and the importance of allowing negative emotions to surface, in order to solve it, starts at a young age.

 

If you didn’t have that as a child (I know I didn’t) you can train yourself in doing so.

 

Yesterday his lovely teacher sent me an amazing message about his school accomplishments.

 

He is top at school and effortlessly.

So proud of him, in all aspects!

And I make sure to let him know often.

Acknowledgment of even the smallest things, not just the big ones, is important.

So, it’s easy to create deals with him, and is always a win-win setting.

 

PS: In the upcoming premium community I’ll share even more valuable insights about all aspects of life. Stay tuned!

 

Have a great week! 😉

 

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What does your mind say?

One single thought can change your mood, your day.

One mindset shift can change your life.

 

Your mind is constantly whispering to you.

 

  • What if you fail?
  • You can’t do this.
  • You can’t slow down or you’ll lose everything.
  • There’s not enough time/resources

Or

 

  • I’ll never find someone like them again
  • I’ve failed
  • I need someone to feel complete
  • If I don’t settle now, I’ll end up alone

 

And the list goes on and on…

 

Your natural approach will be to dismiss them. (Wrong move! Dive right into it Without getting trapped there – I have lots of helpful tips to guide you through it.)

 

The truth is – your whispers don’t have to hold you back, they can push you forward.

If you train your mind and heart in this direction.

 

Curious how I turned my whispers into motivation and tangible results?

Take a look at my previous post called Mindset – Your Silent Business Partner, where I dive deeper into mastering this battlefield.

 

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Mindset – The Silent Business Partner

 

Your mindset is either your biggest investor or your greatest liability!

Your ally or your enemy.

And this applies in both, business and personal life.

 

The way you approach a situation will have a huge impact on your outcome.

 

Let’s take the 80/20 rule. Mindset vs action. 

This rule evolved from the Pareto Principle. Pareto said that if you focus on 20% of actions you will get 80% of results. Modern coaches took this principle and integrated it into personal growth metrics.

From here the present rule of 80/20.

This rule means that – you should focus 80% on mindset to get those 20% of actions.

Which is nothing but the truth!

 

I will even go further with this saying that success is, actually, 90% mindset and 10% action. (I mention this in some other posts too)

This conclusion is a strong belief I have, after testing many different ways, for years, to get what I wanted – in my personal life and business.

 

I used to take a lot of action, ignoring my inner thoughts and feelings. I got some results from it, but not for the long run. Being impulsive didn’t help either, in fact, made it worse. 

I lacked self-control, which made it difficult to shift my mindset no matter how hard I tried.

I was stuck in this rabbit hole.

Mental clarity was not as ongoing as it is now. Emotional regulation was off (now present whenever I need it) – all of my efforts seemed so difficult and with low results.

 

Thought I had to work even harder, to the point I was extremely exhausted – and from this point nothing good came out (of course).

 

Thought I must be doing something wrong. Confidence and self-trust were up and down, mostly down during work.

 

Fears were building and building.

Fear of failure along with fear of success (yep), imposture syndrome, fear of not being good enough… I was functioning with a scarcity mindset thinking that there were not enough resources.

On a personal level, this created fear of uncertainty which led to other unpleasant things. Add raising a kid on top of that.

Overwhelming is a small word to describe the above.

 

I just described the real struggle that entrepreneurs and business owners face, didn’t I?

 

Quite a list huh? (lol)

 

I also say often that business and personal life are interconnected through mindset. It is so.

One affects the other and vice versa.

Is not possible to say I have a good mindset regarding business but I am a mess in my personal life. One builds the other. You either have it or you don’t.

Can you be successful without a healthy mindset? Dang sure!

But having the right mindset in place makes the journey more pleasant, more satisfying, and easier.

 

Real change happened when I discovered my natural way of shifting my mindset (most of what was known in this area was not working for me), I was forced to do it in my own way because I wanted to change. 

I said to myself – if others could do it so can I. 

I started to ask questions, like – What can I do to improve my mindset?

From here other questions… and the answers started to flow… A game-changer for me!

Proud to say now that I have some unique, very efficient methods to go about it. 🌟

 

Was it difficult? Yep. Is it possible? Yep.

Is it worth it or necessary? I will let you answer this one.

You can’t be a good leader without a healthy mindset in place.

You can’t choose proper relationships (of any kind) without a healthy mindset in place.

You can’t give your all to your kid(s) as a parent, without a healthy mindset in place.

 

And you can harmoniously integrate a healthy mindset when you reach a top level of self-control, and further on, when you reach a top level of self-mastery.

 

You start realizing that failure is golden and it teaches you so much if you become a good observer.

 

Everything becomes clear, easy, ideas and action plans flow, emotional regulation is there, intuition is high and you trust it every time.

 

You release negative situations, worries, and stress, faster than ever.

 

You spot people who don’t align with your life, or biz, vision. You also spot those who are walking the same journey with you.

 

It’s easy to be your authentic self every time.

 

You fully trust your journey.

 

You are at peace with yourself regardless of what life throws at you.

 

In other words – Everything falls into place!

 

There comes a moment when you realize you can’t keep waiting for the “right time”.

Human Upgrade 2.0 is your chance to break the negative cycle you’re in.

 

HU 2.0 is a hybrid program crafted for your individual needs – beautifully blending self-control, mindset mastery, and actionable steps to create lasting transformation.

If you’re ready to invest in leveling up your personal life and/or business, message me today and let’s begin.

 

What’s one mindset shift that changed your business game? What about your personal life?

 

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How to become comfortable with Yourself

 

Not everybody is going to like you.

Not everybody is going to agree with you.

Not everybody is going to support you.

Not everybody is going to understand you.

 

And it’s ok.

 

As long as Your people will, the rest doesn’t matter. It’s just part of the game.

 

How do you find your people? Your tribe?

People that resonate with you?

 

By staying authentic. True to who you truly are when nobody’s watching.

 

How do you get here?

 

By asking questions. (Ex: What do I have to change to be my authentic self?)

 

By shifting your beliefs, your mindset, your habits.

 

By making this your priority.

 

By following through and keep on practicing.

 

By gaining self-control in all areas, which leads to self-mastery.

 

Why should you bother with all of this?

 

You shouldn’t if you don’t want to improve the quality of life and its results.

 

If you are among those who want to change the direction of their life for the better, join me.

 

If you want to discover your authentic self, to find your people (biz partners and collaborations, romantic relationship, friendships), join me.

 

If you want to gain self-control in everything you do and make better choices, join me.

 

If you want to gain self-mastery, join me.

 

Where?

In my program – Human Upgrade 2.0

 

You can join for a week, a month, or more.

Within this program you will get my full support.

 

You will get 10% if you join until January 8th.

 

Are you ready? Email me.

 

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Human Upgrade 2.0 Insights 2025

 

What if there is a solution for Everything you’re going through?

What if you could make a transformational turn and make it last?

 

I’ve done it multiple times on different levels and I am here to tell you IS possible!

 

I genuinely wish someone had told me everything I am sharing with you within this project, years ago.

 

I’ve been at my lowest, mentally, and emotionally. And got back up.

I’ve had success and never had to worry about material things. 

And I’ve been at my zero point where I had nothing.

I got back up.

 

Again and again. Up and down. Up and down.

 

Now I am living and acting from my greatest version ever!

All of those moments, low and high taught me this:

 

Emotional regulation is a must to face whatever life throws at you. 

Personal or business wise. (they are interconnected)

 

Mental clarity is mandatory to follow through and move forward with your goals, regardless of what this means to you.

 

Gaining self control IS the first step to embody the above.

 

Negative experiences, emotional or mental ones, are there to teach you self control.

I see them as a supreme test to your ability to choose how to react.

And they need a form of expression to be able to dissolve them. 

Pushing them deep down was never a viable solution, and never will be – not for the long term at least.

 

Accepting All parts of yourself is the first step to healing (yes, I am talking about physical healing too! Did that also.)

 

Business success and true inner fulfillment – is 90% self-work and 10% action!

I’ve tried different things in the business area in the past 15 years. International, local, you name it. Some succeeded, some didn’t.

But All of them taught me so much and gave me the experience I now have to run any biz I want and help others do the same. Digital marketing was a constant, with over a decade in this space. Which allows me to create powerful strategies for business growth.

Running this personal development project, in the past 4 years, my soul project as I call it (it’s aligned with who I am), also taught me a lot about the organic marketing approach.

Which takes me to my next point.

Leading with authenticity and integrity is key.

Failure IS part of the process and it holds the most valuable lessons! On all levels.

 

Becoming a high achiever, a high-value person doesn’t stand in the bag of money you get or status… But in becoming your greatest version, in transforming your inner self. 

From there 💲💲💲and status is just a natural consequence.

And let me tell you this is a bumpy journey with lots of challenges. 

But so Rewarding when you reach the finish line!

 

Set healthy boundaries, build your self-confidence, and be mindful about the content you digest daily, about people you keep close – another mandatory action to implement.

 

Self growth is an ongoing learning process. 

When you think you know enough, some new insight to learn from appears.

 

All the above, and more, are extensive teachings I share within my program:

Human Upgrade 2.0

 

You can join for a week, a month, or more. As you need it.

In this program you will get my daily support to walk you through challenges you face and transform them.

Personal or business wise.

 

Email coaching still available, at $80. For those who want to test how coaching with me goes and if it’s a fit.

 

My approach is direct (I will Not keep you in your comfort zone, there is no transformation from this place), bold, solution-oriented, efficient, creative and tailored for your needs.

 

Remember!

I am giving you the tools while you’re creating the rules.

 

Pricing for this program, Human Upgrade 2.0, will also be individual, depending on your request.

 

Another gift I am offering is a 10% discount for this program.

Discount available up ‘till January 8th 2025!

 

There you have it.

This is Your Chance to finish this year and start the New one like a Master.

To gain mastery in your present and future actions and reactions, in your choices.

 

Below is the feedback from one of my amazing clients who joined the program.

 

It’s fully your choice. 

(I encourage you to listen to your intuition when joining coaching programs, with me or others.)

 

What’s gonna be the tone of these last days of 2024?

What’s gonna be the tone you set for 2025?

 

Reflect on these questions.

 

Big changes begin with bold decisions.

Master yourself to master your world.

Let’s bridge the gap!

 

Ready? Dm me.

 

D.

Success Story – part of the Human Upgrade 2.0 program

 

 

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Conscious Parenting Story

 

Moments with Alex. (my son) 📥

 

We work on correcting his posture, no biggie but it needs to be addressed.

 

So I’ve started a series of exercises with him, mental and physical ones. Going to share part of the list I prepared for him.

 

Here is how it actually goes.

 

Wall angels exercise. I tried to make it fun.

Me:

 

  • Imagine you are Spiderman and…

His reaction.

Stops completely the exercise and crawl on the wall, saying:

 

  • See? I am not Spiderman, you lied to me. (in a fun way)

I could only laugh with him, this stuff never worked on him (superheroes stuff).

 

I have to get really creative with him…

 

Next one. The rope exercise.

 

  • Imagine someone is pulling the rope up…
  • Wait, I have to pull the rope to work. Done.

Lol, this one worked a bit better with his adjustments.

 

Breathing exercise to connect with his body and visualization.

This one was hilarious! I wish I could do a video (he doesn’t let me lol).

 

I always told him – you are a great comedian (among other things). 

You’ve guessed it, he is the center of fun in his groups, at school… (also a top student)

 

Another moment with him.

 

  • Mami, how come you always know what I think before I speak? Are you in my mind or what?
  • Hehe kido, it’s magic! And this should tell you that you stand no chance in lying to me, unless I allow it.

 

His face after hearing this? Priceless.

The interpretation was “I’m f****ed!” 😂😂

I just couldn’t hold back from laughing.

 

Another moment.

 

I was testing where he’s at psychologically to specific situations that may happen, given his age (11).

 

  • What if a friend or a colleague tells you that he doesn’t like the way you dress, or your choice in food, about your opinions…?
  •  

His immediate reaction, (singing):

 

 -🎵 I don’t give a s**t! 🎵

 

😄  followed, of course, by a grounded discussion about him and people around him, about respect and boundaries… 

I take advantage of every chance I get to help him implement healthy beliefs. Of course, this happens rarely… I have to catch him “in the mood” lol. 

I always respect his space and personality.

 

And every day brings something new.

Conscious parenting is the greatest journey of all!

 

I raise my son knowing that one day he is going to be the partner, husband, of a woman.

I raise him to be able to face any experience life may serve him.

With love and fun, with self-esteem and confidence.

With self awareness. With the knowledge that he can do Anything he sets his mind to.

Building an authentic, confident, aware, and respectful approach to girls (later on women) he interacts with.

 

In the chapter I dedicated to my son – Miracles Exists – I share my full journey about when I decided to have a kid, pregnancy, giving birth, and how I overcame challenging health issues when he was a baby, through pure intentions.

 

Caution – if you don’t have kids yet, this chapter only, will make you want one. And this is a direct feedback I received from someone without kids after reading it.

 

A few quotes to let it sync in even more:

 

“People say that children choose when to be born, where to be born, and the family. Given my “choice” to give birth in the best clinic with the best doctors, long before I even conceived it, I tend to believe these things.”

 

“We are his parents, not his cage!”

 

“He has his own choices to make, his own fears to overcome, his own dream to follow, his own dramas to live, his own loves to feel, his own car to drive, his own luggage to carry, his own travels, his own emotions to understand.”

 

Get inspired with The Journal of Human Emotions ebook. 

And winter holidays… is the perfect moment to do that.

D.

 

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True power lies within. Master yourself, and the world becomes your creation

 

True power lies within. Master yourself, and the world becomes your creation.

 

You want to live in a generation that values self-growth over competition and inner alignment over external validation.

 

A generation where kids are empowered to thrive and appreciated for their unique skills. Where they learn the importance of self-control, creativity, self-expression, and spiritual exploration. (See my post about Spirituality)

 

A generation where You, as an adult can learn all these skills to thrive in life, to get in a better Mental Space with Yourself!

 

A generation where psychiatrists and psychologists apply only, still, knowledge and practice from books written 50+ years ago and then wonder why their patients are not healed. (Part of them of course, some do their homework and research 🙌)

Where they don’t just sit in their offices, with their diplomas collecting dust, and offer not even half of the help they could – just by learning the skills above.

 

This is the generation we live in Now with its duality.

Good – because of the above skills we could implement and thrive, heal… and bad – because of the old methods that are still being applied with superficial results.

 

And to be able to offer a better world for your kids, for the next generations, 

for yourself Now…

 

You have to Change first!

The way you think, feel, act, react. 

Your habits.

Your Everything.

 

To get a sense of belonging, to Heal on all levels (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually – at a soul level)

 

You Have to Master Yourself!

 

Is it easy? Nope. Is it possible? 1000%.

It’s a choice.

 

You’ll either stay in your comfort zone and- have low self-esteem, lots of money and no sense of real fulfillment, low confidence, procrastinate, be depressed or worse, be absent from your own life and those you love, wondering why you (victim mentality), blaming everybody else, etc…

 

Or

 

You’ll get to work and start practicing. Nobody can do that for you, but You.

 

Today’s Keyword is Practice.

 

Not watching, not reading only. This will only boost your mood for the moment, and back to old habits…

 

Build your own systems to discover your inner truth, your infinite potential.

 

Accept what triggers you, start the practice to change it, to heal it, and keep going towards your destination, your goal.

 

Ask yourself

 

What’s one small step I can take to improve this today?

Sit with it.

 

Don’t forget to join the challenge. Message me Self Control to chat and get your aha moment.

D.💚

 

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