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“We do arrive on Earth through a Love process.
We do become better because of Love.
We do destroy others because of… lack of Love.
We are capable of doing Anything in the name of Love!
Another amazing fact about Love, is that we already own it, it’s in every one of us since birth. When you’re searching for Love outside of you it is because you want to share it and not because you want to find it.”
 
Quote from The Journal Of Human Emotions book (find the link on my homepage).
 
Understanding these simple words goes deeper than you think.
Love is the greater experience you’ll ever have, and you know it. Regardless of your social status, this is all every single person on this Earth needs and wants.
Knowing this, aware or not, you start chasing it with the price of losing yourself sometimes, changing and compromising anything you truly are. Just for the sake of this experience.
 
An authentic relationship is ruled by unconditional love, which leads to self-growth, feeling safe and secure, and becoming who you are. This goes for both sides. A healthy relationship should be an equal give and take.
 
When you sacrifice your beliefs and wants just to be in a relationship, you start losing self-esteem and give up your dreams. You start losing your mojo, feeling guilty because you gave your all and is not reciprocated. Feeling shame, thinking is your fault and maybe that you don’t deserve something better…
If you are in a relationship and experience this situation that’s a huge r-e-d flag and let me tell you that you’re more than enough to have anything you want from a relationship, with love and integrity.
 
The bad part is that even if you ended this type of relationship you still carry the weight of those fake assumptions in your mind and heart. Yes, fake, because none of it is true.
You just had a bad experience, but this doesn’t mean all of them will be the same.
 
When you get to understand that is not your fault, nor the other person’s fault… you’ll find peace and be ready for the next ride. More confident, more aware, more open-hearted.
On another note, if you carry your old stuff into a new experience the cycle will repeat.
To be fully ready for your ideal relationship you need first to give yourself some time and grace. To stop chasing love. Only at that moment, love will chase you.
When you know what you want exactly and build the confidence you fully deserve it, you won’t need to chase it anymore. All is going to happen naturally.
A confident man who knows who he is will court a woman in a special way, like a true gentleman.
A confident woman who knows who she is will know how to recognize that special man, and will not get swept off her feet by the first compliment she receives or a romantic gesture.
 
Find the love inside you first. From there you can give your all to your ideal partner, who will do the same with you. Unconditional love is mutually shared without asking for it.
And this is what a powerful relationship between a Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine looks like.
 
All you have to do is to be open to receive. To start working on those limiting beliefs, to start a new and better cycle.
 
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Detached Attachment

You may have the tendency to form attachments to material things, people in your life, or situations.

Attachment to material things is formed when you need to feel secure, safe… and by having those material things your emotional need is fulfilled (at least you think so) – this is your primary assumption in this situation. Operating from this assumption leads to increased ownership sense, which leads further to a fake “happy” emotion provided only when you own those material things. To go even further, a strong material attachment leads to a fixed mindset (no growth here), to a life without real meaning, where what you have equals who you are.

Let’s not confuse being attached to enjoying material things. Two separate things! It’s totally fine to have material things in life that you enjoy. It’s totally fine to enjoy having money (let’s be serious, of course is fine!). As long as you don’t create attachments – an attachment grows in layers, let’s say S,M,L. The more you feed it, the more it grows.

Attachment to people, well this one has many more layers (up to 4XL lol ). You can find yourself attached to a family member, to a partner, to a friend. Your assumption here is that without them you can’t do anything, literally. In this case, you need constant help, attention, advice,  a push forward.

This type of attachment is created when you experience low self-esteem. This type of attachment leads to unfulfilled connections, relationships, and again a fixed mindset. The emotion experienced in this case is fear. Fear of failure. And here can also appear that increased ownership sense.

It takes self-work to realize you don’t own anything and anyone, but YOURSELF.

Again, let’s not confuse attachment to specific people with enjoying having them in our life…

Attachment to situations is anything in between the first two.

How do you detach?

You create new assumptions that lead in this direction. You DECIDE to change and practice it!

This is where the manifestation process comes into play. You become aware of your thoughts and replace them with what you actually want.

New statement (affirmation) – mental diet (thoughts awareness) – Imply emotions – Repeat.

This is how you create a new assumption that eventually will reflect a new YOU.

By changing assumptions you create a new belief system that influences your mindset, and eventually your actions and reactions. Your desired life!

And your desired life, where you have meaningful connections, and relationships, where you’re fully confident when you want something, where you set rules and boundaries, starts with YOUR decision to change.

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How to Let Go?

Letting go

Not being able to detach from a situation is what many times keeps you stuck in the same negative cycle.

You can’t look back and move forward at the same time.

I agree that sometimes is difficult to overcome a situation that caused a big emotional impact on your life. It might seem impossible but is not.

Every time when you remember that specific situation you attach emotion to it, you bring it to the present moment. This is why is difficult to detach, to let go.

Instead, start observing it. Analyze the situation from a different perspective where you’re detached emotionally. You can do this by observing and asking questions to yourself.

Let’s say is about your ex-relationship, is a common situation. 

Ask yourself, where will you be if you’d get back together? Will the relationship be different from what you already know? All the reasons for breaking up initially, will actually disappear?

In 99% of the cases, people that get back with their ex-partners fail to make it work. And eventually, things get even worse than before. Which will lead to a definite breakup and a longer time to heal yourself, to let go.

To avoid all of this, take your time and observe it first. When you’ll get a clear picture of the situation, you’ll be able to let go.

The best thing you can do is to focus on yourself and keep on moving. Ask yourself, what fears do I need to dismiss in order to let go and move on? What beliefs about myself do I have to change? 

Many times you’ll think you can’t let go because you’re still in love, when actually only your ego thinks this. 

It’s a coping mechanism to avoid facing your inner fears. 

You may be afraid you’ll never find someone better, of loneliness, or other possible situations that can cause fear. Again, in most cases, every situation is different.

What if I tell you that… where broken pieces are created real love doesn’t grow? Would you be able to let go faster?…

It happens rarely for a flower to bloom in stone.

Put yourself on a pedestal and keep moving forward! Make this your assumption: I choose a better life!

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Merge your business success with personal life

Can you run a successful business without being healed on a personal level? With a broken heart? While having limiting beliefs or low confidence?

Of course you can! Many successful people are doing it. How?

They decide to become intentional  – running a successful business – and act on it.

Main key: Decision – Intention – Action! DIA

They detach from childhood trauma (if any), from failed romance. From limiting beliefs of any kind, by continuously applying DIA formula. And they do a great job at it!

It’s totally fine to detach from emotional issues, without solving/healing them first, when you have a material goal in mind – for a period of time. This means focus.

Here comes the juicy part.

The faster you address personal issues, the better you’ll become in reaching your business potential.

Simply because you’ll function from your 100% capability, and not from your 50%.

When your personal life is in balance, you’re getting better when it comes to fast decisions – Your intuition enhances which will allow you to spot other opportunities for business growth that you wouldn’t see clearly otherwise.

You can filter out faster partnerships, team members, and strategies. Your time management improves as well. In other words, you simply become more efficient when it comes to your business success.

Just by working on yourself at a personal level.

When you achieve this balance between personal life and business get ready to reach your maximum potential!

You can’t push your emotions down for too long, they will burst out eventually. And this will start having a domino effect in all areas of your life.

No matter how amazing you are at doing business, you can miss good opportunities when you’re functioning from your 50% capability only! Where the business side is a half and personal life the other half – to clarify a little bit. 🙂

They need to merge together! It’s a win-win situation for both sides.

How? By using the same formula: DIA! With a simple twist.

Teach yourself how to dismiss limiting beliefs.

Teach yourself how to increase confidence, especially when you need it the most.

Teach yourself how to be more efficient.

Teach yourself how to improve time management.

Teach yourself how to trust more.

Teach yourself how to create a balance in all areas of your life.

Teach yourself whatever you want.

You create the rules! I can give you the tools.

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When uncomfortable becomes comfortable, real change happens.

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Shift Your Self-Concept

If a fish swims in dirty water, do you give the fish some medicine to make him healthier or do you change the water to a clean one?

Keep this analogy in mind and reflect on your daily decisions and actions. When you feel frustrated for not achieving what you want yet, do you blame others or do you actually put in the effort to change how you feel about yourself?

When you feel angry, guilty, fearful, anxious, depressed, disappointed… do you expect others to give you the solutions or do you go get it yourself?

It starts with acknowledging where you’re at in your life, with being honest to yourself first. Then, you can search for solutions to shift your self-concept. This requires action and self-work. How many times have you heard this line: “the change starts from within”? This is exactly what it means, shifting the way you feel and think about yourself in order to change your life.

If you want to start taking action, go grab the guide to Boost Your Self Confidence! It will set you on a good foundation to move further with your desires. Verify what other people say about it.

What will you choose? Giving the fish medicine, or changing the water to a clean one?

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Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind

There is an infinite intelligence within you, within your subconscious mind. Waiting to be awakened and accessed. Your subconscious mind holds all of your habits, your limiting beliefs, but also ALL the answers you seek.

When you came into this world you knew how to breathe – your subconscious mind holds this information already, like everything else, from the moment you arrive on this Earth. Then, you learn how to walk, talk, run, read, write, drive… all of these are habits stored in the subconscious mind that you do on autopilot without thinking HOW to do it, you just do it.

In the very same way, you borrow patterns from people around you, about how relationships should be, about self-confidence, about being successful… which leads to personal experiences in this direction.  These patterns, if not healthy, they become limiting beliefs that you believe… on autopilot. This is what the subconscious mind does, delivers you WHATEVER you keep repeating and believing in. Therefore, this is what your reality becomes.

When you assume that people around you are having a good life, but not you. Or that is so easy for some people to be successful, but not for you. That you never have a relationship to last, you are unlucky in love, women/men in your life are using you only, or only some people find true love… The list can continue…

Guess what you’ll get to experience? EXACTLY what you assume!

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Many times you don’t even observe those limiting beliefs within you, and you continue having low self-esteem, believing you are unlucky, not capable to succeed as others do… and so on.

Let me tell you that YOU CAN transform all of it and make it work in your favor! It takes self-work, spotting limiting beliefs you have, and practice. 

All it takes is YOU wanting to break patterns that don’t serve you anymore. Wanting to tap into the power within and transform your life! Wanting to take ACTION to change your reality!

I can easily identify your limiting beliefs and dismiss them. I can teach you how to tap into your inner power to get what you want and transform your reality.

If you’re ready, let’s jump into a coaching session to speed up the process.

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SUSPEND YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS!

Limiting beliefs are simply your negative beliefs, your negative self-talk. Let’s say you want a better relationship. You start applying positive self-talk (affirmations), visualizing, imagining… but you still can’t get what you want.

This is happening because, while you’re doing the work to get what you want, your self-concept about relationships, for example, is negative. You might find yourself saying – I always attract bad situations when it comes to relationships. Men/women disappear from my life so quickly. They don’t appreciate me, they always lie… And you can go on, and on…

What you have to do is to spot those beliefs and start working on your self-concept. When these negative thoughts appear, use the opposite until it feels right.

I have good relationships always. I meet only people that appreciate me. I am so amazing, and my partner reflects this part of me every single day. All they want is me. I deserve the most amazing relationship. I am a dream partner. I am meant to be in the most amazing relationship. I am so happy and grateful that I have a relationship beyond my best expectations. I am about to be in my dream relationship any minute now. I am so wanted. Everybody wants me in their life. My dream man/woman appeared in my life suddenly. It was so easy for me to attract my dream relationship. I deserve to have all I want. I deserve to have a loving and caring relationship. Put yourself on a pedestal!

You can reprogram your subconscious mind!

Spot that limiting belief and transform it! If you need my help, message me. I can easily identify your limiting beliefs and dismiss them.

Practice, loop it enough until you impress your subconscious mind, until it feels good. You will build the inner knowing that what you want is going to happen no matter what.  At that very moment, your reality will conform!

Identify your limiting belief. Reject it. Replace it!

That’s the formula to keep in mind always. Write it down, it makes it easier to identify. Writing it down it will connect you faster with your thoughts.

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How to Manifest Your Special Person? Visualization Scene

How to manifest your special person, a relationship that you want in all ways? I will give you a visualization scene at the end to try.

If you are at a point in life when you want your soulmate, you’ve already been through some… “not fit for you” relationships, let’s call them that. 

Relationships in which you didn’t feel appreciated for what you are, loved for who you are. Let me tell you that you learn from every experience you go through. At least you learn first what you DON’T want before you know what you want. Which is enough to get you going further.

Before you start manifesting your special person, your soulmate, your twin flame – however you want to call it, make sure you know exactly how you want them to be physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Take a moment and write down a few specific characteristics of how you want your special person to be. To set a clear intention on what you want exactly.

If you think of a person with a nice appearance, good finances, a male/female presence in your life so you don’t feel alone anymore… don’t be surprised if you’ll get just that. Check out my post or video about loneliness to understand it better.

Instead, focus on traits that feed your soul. 

You want someone to SEE you, to LISTEN to you, to whom you can talk about all and nothing for hours and never get bored.

Someone who can make love with your mind, body, and soul.

Someone who can understand and accept ALL of You. 

A person with these traits is beautiful inside-out. Who takes care of their soul takes care of their appearance too. This is what full self-acceptance sounds like.

Set your standards high, don’t settle for less.

How?

You have to work on your self-concept first, to become all that you want to find in the other one.

And this is not difficult, is enough to want it and then to actually put in the work, to improve your self-talk, your confidence. I am here to help you do it!

After you set a clear intention about how your soulmate/SP/twin flame should be, take a deep breath and visualize a scene where you already have it.

An example can be this one. Close your eyes and imagine this conversation scene which implies you are together already:

“I feel fully myself when next to you. You spark my mind and soul in ways I didn’t know is possible. Years went by and we still have the same burning flame inside us. Every day next to you is a beautiful untold story. I love your imperfections as I know you love mine.  At my worst, you show my best. At your worst, I reveal your greatness. We are like water and thirst, like fire and fuel. Like red wine and chocolate. We are unconditional love made perfect. I am here to stay.  To create more beautiful untold stories together.”

You can use this as wedding vows if you want. 🙂

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GET INSPIRED BY LONELINESS! MANIFEST ACCEPTANCE.

How many times have you felt alone? Especially when you are actually surrounded by so many people, online and offline. Even celebrities feel alone. Celebrity or not, we are all humans at the end of the day.

Loneliness is something that hits hard on many people all over the world, regardless of their status! Let’s dive in!

How many times did you ask yourself: Why do I feel alone? What makes me feel alone? The answer is not attached to the presence or absence of people around you.

It just is. The feeling is there…

I personally think is the lack of substance you surround yourself with sometimes. Meaningless friendships. Meaningless relationships. Empty talks. Why all of this is happening?

Because you don’t set yourself as a priority, and you follow the crowd. If everybody thinks, acts, like this I must do it too. And then the loneliness hits you. You start feeling empty. How can you feel otherwise when you surround yourself with empty situations that don’t feed your soul and who you are?…

And who you are can be defined ONLY by you. Guess when? When you’re alone!

This is how you best discover what you actually want from life too. The moment you discover who you are and fully accept yourself, loneliness will disappear.

Many people asked me if I ever feel alone. My answer? NO! I will explain right away why. Or, how can I be so cool about loneliness, so calm, so confident? I love my alone moments! Those are the moments when I get most creative, I write, I contemplate, or I simply relax. This is how I discovered who I am and what I want. I accepted loneliness by having a different perspective, even before I knew who I was.

Next time when you feel alone, learn how to have a coffee with yourself in order to fully accept your alone moments. This is also how you start growing your confidence.

It’s a journey, enjoy it! Don’t be afraid of it! Change your perspective and all will be just fine.

The tendency is to run away from yourself… from loneliness. That is the moment when you end up in bad friendships and relationships. Of course, there are other reasons too, but most of them have the base, the foundation, on knowing who you are. Simply because –  what you become, you attract. Your own beliefs will set the tone further on. Make sure to keep them in check.

How to cope better with your alone time? Affirm, talk to yourself – in the end, this is what affirmations are – improved self-talk.

Here is what You can say:

I feel so inspired when alone. I embrace my own company, I embrace myself. Loneliness gives me the chance to know what I want. Therefore, I accept my alone moments. Loneliness gives me that restart in life that I need. Loneliness makes things clearer for me. I love being alone! I discover faster what I want when alone. I discover faster who I am when alone. Loneliness makes me a magnet for all the positive people I want in my life!

Create your own self-talk about loneliness and you’ll see how fast things settle in your favor, getting you what you want. Which is:  Authentic connections on all levels! Who doesn’t want that?

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MANIFEST IN MINUTES. INSPIRING.

Let me tell you one truth that not many talks about it. If you listen until the end, You will also discover how to make your affirmations work faster.

The truth that I want to talk about is that… Even coaches need coaching sometimes.

Don’t you ever think that a coach is having it all together all the time, because is not true!

Of course we have bad days, of course we get lost on the way too…

But, the difference is, that we always come back to our own tools and use them. And this is something I can teach you. To learn how to coach yourself!

Here is what you can do when you’re having a bad day, when you feel something is not working out as you want, just yet.

Keep in mind that you hold control always.

If in your journey to reach a goal that you want, you get to feel stuck, improve your self-talk right away.

Play some music before to boost your mood a bit if needed, go for a walk, whatever works for you… I have a post on how to boost your mood if you need more ideas.

But do it! Don’t get stuck in that negative loop.

Say this to yourself:

I choose to keep full focus on my goal.

Of course, I am going to get it. It is what I want and I always get what I want!

I always manifest ALL of my positive desires. Is so easy for me to get what I want!

Is my birthright to have all I want! I choose to be the best and I am the best!

I choose to follow my goals every single day until I get them. This Is Who I am!

I feel so confident today! I am always guided toward the right choices.

Of course I am going to get my desire. Is so easy for me to get what I want.

…After you raised your confidence a bit, focus on your specific desire and imagine it.

I will give you an awesome technique that is working for me every single time.

Let’s say you want to go on a special trip, or to a special event, that you know will help you.

Imagine having a conversation about your desire with a friend that will genuinely be happy for you.

This should go like this. The conversation can be via phone.

I can’t believe it! I was invited to that amazing event 5 minutes ago. Or, I’m going on my special trip in a few days, all is set! Isn’t this wonderful?!

Or

I can’t believe it, my book was published 5 minutes ago. I just bought tickets to my favorite band… I just bought my car. My SP just called me. 

I just closed that important business deal!… It Can be anything – choose your desire.

Then, imagine your friend’s response: Wow! This is so amazing, congrats!

Try to make it as natural as possible, use your own language, your own words.

And Imagine having this conversation about your goal as if it already happened. You will be amazed by the results.

Repeat this scene, this conversation until you feel good about it. Usually, a couple of minutes will do the trick.

This is how you make your affirmations work faster!

Choose your affirmation and imagine a conversation about it. 

If you couple the telephone technique with the “Isn’t it wonderful” technique, as I gave an example earlier, in one of the affirmations, it gets even more powerful!

Listen to this video as a reminder every time you feel like giving up!

Share your results!

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