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A special morning in my life

I have to share this one with you!!

(As it is related to the posts series about self control and lack of it, that will keep on sharing. This series started with my Sunday’s post.)

I usually don’t remember my dreams and rarely have vivid ones.

This morning I woke up after a vivid dream, remembering parts of it.

In this vivid dream I was having (what seemed to be) a long conversation with God, with Divinity as I like to call it. (same thing)

Some messages from this conversation:

 

* Emotional regulation heals the mind.

* Anger and frustration help emotional regulation if you know how to channel it, how to use all of it in order to transform it.

* And the way you write about it in your journal since a teenager, even reactions you had, is the way to emotionally regulate.

* I gave you this gift early to help yourself and others.

The feeling of this dream was loving and with a different type of calm, can’t describe it exactly yet.

For me is confirmation to proceed with this series as it’s going to help many of you on different levels.

Deeper explanations and methods will be shared in the self control guide I am getting ready to launch soon – working on it. 

Will add insights I got from this dream to it as it reinforces my work, offering a deeper layer of understanding.

What can I say? 

Is going to get interesting. 😉

 

#gratefulformyjourney

Make Your Choice

My story series – Women and respect

A few days ago, I decided to share my personal story, which happened a few years ago and led to learning self-control and self-mastery.

I will share parts of the story, as it is very long, in a non-chronological order. I am still working on it, so it’s not fully ready, yet.

Those who follow my work are already used to my writing style – authentic, inspiring, and real.

All the new ones – welcome aboard!

The next series of posts with part of my story will be shared in the same style.

Stay tuned! Is going to be interesting.

Here is the first random part.

 

“A woman can’t defend herself, or her child, without being labeled in the worst possible way?

How is this possible in today’s society?

I agree that I shouldn’t have reacted that way, and never did ‘till that point.

This shows that even the calmest people can reach their limit when pushed towards it repetitively.

This shows I am only human, and I am not flawless.

This also shows how easily a woman gets dismissed.

A Woman Is the Backbone of Society!

Women play an important, foundational role in sustaining, nurturing, and shaping families, communities, and cultures.

They often present a higher rate of emotional intelligence.

Women give Birth and/or Raise Future Generations.

They shape the values, behaviors, and well-being of these future generations.

Women keep families and communities connected and they are a source of strength and emotional support for them – through women’s amazing resilience and adaptability.

So society can evolve and thrive!

Why doesn’t a woman receive the full support from the same society?

What would a society be without women?

Would a society even exist?…

Instead, women still get suppressed and labeled without sustainable reasons.

We are not here to debate which one is the best, smartest, or most capable

 – a man or a woman.

This is a stupid move that has been going on for centuries – which created useless competition.

It needs to stop.

We are here to understand each other’s values, roles, and individuality.

To thrive together!

To accept and support women and men’s contribution to an ongoing evolving society.

A thriving society needs both of them!

Women and men.

Each with its unique values and contribution.

It always was like that, and always will be.

A man’s role has been recognized and acknowledged.

It’s time to fully acknowledge, recognize, and support a woman’s role in this society too!

I said earlier that a woman is the backbone of a society.

A man is the head of a society.

And these two are interconnected.

Back to the lesson.

 After that moment I understood I can’t force anyone to show respect, but I can refuse to be disrespected by stepping away. 

By gaining full self-control over reactions.”

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Why I started as a coach. Story time.

Some of you asked what inspired me to become a coach.
 
Here is my answer.
Guiding people, giving them aha moments and solutions, changing their perspective, and changing their overall life for the better – is something I have done ever since I was a teenager.
It comes naturally to me and I love doing it.
 
As the years went by, and going through my own challenges and life experiences – I significantly improved my skills.
To the point where I gained self-control over my thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. Which led to self-mastery.
 
Think of self-control as if it’s a button, that you can switch on/off whenever is needed.
Thinking back to when I had my first “coaching session”…
 
I was 15 years old. My parents used to fight a lot, until one day when I saw them fighting again. They were in the kitchen. I walked in there, calm, and separated them.
While I hopped on the kitchen counter, one was sitting at the table, the other one at the window (I was in the middle). And started to ask them questions about their marriage.
When I saw they kept contradicting every thing the other one said, I asked them a final question:
 
– Why don’t you divorce? It seems a good solution for you.
They were shocked.
That was the moment when complete silence settled down. It was out of the question!
From that moment, all was peaceful. For a short period, until they got back to old habits.
 
 
Changing a bad habit takes practice, and through practice it becomes a lifestyle, your identity.
 
You can’t say:
– Well, I’ve tried 1-2 times, it doesn’t work for me!
 
To create that bad habit you took plenty of time, and lots of practice to make it part of your life. Years upon years.
 
You might not break it in just a week or maybe a month.
Depending on where you’re at, it will take time to change and replace a bad habit.
And this is different for each of you.
 
And by bad habit I mean – negative thinking, overreacting, overthinking, not knowing how to regulate emotions or thoughts, impulsiveness, not being able to control reactions, lack of awareness, not being able to focus, etc.
In 2020 I’ve decided to come forward and create a business out of my passion. Which I did.
Since then, I have been helping people worldwide with an incredible success rate.
 
People come to me when they need to overcome a stressful situation, improve relationships, become more confident, get a business consultation, get mindset mastery.
People come to me when they want a different life, when they get tired of running in circles.
In short, people come to me to gain self-control, mindset mastery, self-mastery.
 
Why do my shortcuts work?
They are created during real-life and business challenges.
I am authentic.
I don’t like wasting anyone’s time or money.
 
Remember this rule always:
Personal or/and Business Success is built through mindset mastery!
90 % mindset – 10% action.
 
🌟 If you are ready to join me, here is how you can do it:
Email consulting
Call consulting
Exclusive community
Human Upgrade 2.0 (HU 2.0) program
 
HU 2.0 program is the most potent one.
Within this program you get my daily support to reach your destination.
You also have the option to join for a week only, or more, up to 3+ months.
 
What clients say about my work:
 
“Was very stress releasing.”
 
“My perception has certainly shifted, but this method has allowed me to release.”
 
“I am happy to participate in your program.”
 
“Only want to continue to embark in all that you are teaching me. It’s really helpful.”
 
“You are the best!!”
 
More info and success stories here on my website.
 
You can message me if you have questions.
 
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A Message to WOMEN

A Message for Women

 

  • Love yourself more.
  • Activate that confidence.
  • Become aware of your beauty.
  • Stay kind.
  • Do the inner work.
  • Stop chasing men.
  • Value a man’s emotional maturity and intelligence, core values, and Not his status.
  • Release what doesn’t serve you on all levels.
  • Discover and rediscover Who you are or who you want to be.
  • Stop chasing money.
  • Balance your feminine energy inside out.
  • Keep your grace in every situation.
  • Cherish privacy.
  • Respect yourself first if you want to be respected.
  • Lean into your intuition.
  • Keep an open mind always.
  • Keep learning.
  • Other women are not your enemy.
  • Stop competing.
  • Aim to achieve self-control and self mastery.
  • Learn when to talk and when to listen.
  • Keep note of your reactions and improve.
  • Become more aware.
  • Seek inner peace and inner balance.
  • Be mindful of your everyday habits.
  • Practice self-care.
  • Be sexy and not vulgar.
  • Cherish your loved ones.
  • Know when to remove yourself from a situation.
  • Less is more in every aspect.
  • Have healthy boundaries in place.
  • Fight for your dreams.
  • Do business with integrity if you choose so.
  • Lead through inspiration.
  • Be more feminine.
  • Be a Femina. (woman in Latin)
  • Be who you want to be at a core level.
  • Stop searching for validation from the wrong people.
  • Aim for real value and connection.
  • Be authentic.
  • Cultivate a strong mindset.
  • Learn to emotionally regulate.
  • Keep your spirit high.
  • Honor your personal growth.
  • Be patient.
  • You got this!

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True power lies within. Master yourself, and the world becomes your creation

 

True power lies within. Master yourself, and the world becomes your creation.

 

You want to live in a generation that values self-growth over competition and inner alignment over external validation.

 

A generation where kids are empowered to thrive and appreciated for their unique skills. Where they learn the importance of self-control, creativity, self-expression, and spiritual exploration. (See my post about Spirituality)

 

A generation where You, as an adult can learn all these skills to thrive in life, to get in a better Mental Space with Yourself!

 

A generation where psychiatrists and psychologists apply only, still, knowledge and practice from books written 50+ years ago and then wonder why their patients are not healed. (Part of them of course, some do their homework and research 🙌)

Where they don’t just sit in their offices, with their diplomas collecting dust, and offer not even half of the help they could – just by learning the skills above.

 

This is the generation we live in Now with its duality.

Good – because of the above skills we could implement and thrive, heal… and bad – because of the old methods that are still being applied with superficial results.

 

And to be able to offer a better world for your kids, for the next generations, 

for yourself Now…

 

You have to Change first!

The way you think, feel, act, react. 

Your habits.

Your Everything.

 

To get a sense of belonging, to Heal on all levels (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually – at a soul level)

 

You Have to Master Yourself!

 

Is it easy? Nope. Is it possible? 1000%.

It’s a choice.

 

You’ll either stay in your comfort zone and- have low self-esteem, lots of money and no sense of real fulfillment, low confidence, procrastinate, be depressed or worse, be absent from your own life and those you love, wondering why you (victim mentality), blaming everybody else, etc…

 

Or

 

You’ll get to work and start practicing. Nobody can do that for you, but You.

 

Today’s Keyword is Practice.

 

Not watching, not reading only. This will only boost your mood for the moment, and back to old habits…

 

Build your own systems to discover your inner truth, your infinite potential.

 

Accept what triggers you, start the practice to change it, to heal it, and keep going towards your destination, your goal.

 

Ask yourself

 

What’s one small step I can take to improve this today?

Sit with it.

 

Don’t forget to join the challenge. Message me Self Control to chat and get your aha moment.

D.💚

 

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Spirituality Perspective

 

Spirituality Perspective

 

In Latin Spiritus means Breath.

This is the meaning of spirit, it’s your soul, which is alive through daily breathing.

You are alive on this Earth because you breathe. 

Facts, right?

Spirit, spirituality, Is Not something outside of you, but IN YOU.

Saying that spirituality is not real is saying that you are not real. 

Affirming that your spirit doesn’t exist is the same as declaring that… you don’t breathe.

 

The way spirituality (spirit, spiritus, soul) is perceived and understood doesn’t always make sense, let’s just say that some people… complicated this process.

 

And it shouldn’t be complicated, or too woo-woo, as others say.

 

It’s actually simple.

 

All you have to do is to at least be curious about what you want, from your heart and not your mind, and actually listen.

After that convince yourself you can do it.

 

Which means forming new beliefs around it.

 

And this important part of the process is a bit tricky sometimes.

 

Here is where spiritual teachers appeared with all types of methods to get this step accomplished – Forming new beliefs.

 

Different ways of meditating, poses, and rituals of all kinds.

Don’t get me wrong, for some this works – kudos to you.

I will continue by saying that I’ve tested many of them, of these methods and rituals.

 

Which made me think

 

There must be an easier way, a simple one, that makes sense to my logical mind.

And I’ve started to test it out. Multiple times in different ways.

 

This allows me to tell you now that things are simple and not as complicated as they seem in other people’s eyes.

 

It’s all about perspective and in fact, about the meaning you give to every word, number, person, and situation.

 

How you get there is fully your choice, if you need multiple daily rituals to get there and it works, all good.

 

The finish line is the same – reprogramming your mind, implementing new beliefs – regardless of how you get there.

It’s just a conscious choice.

 

I like to simplify things, so I did.

 

To start this journey, knowing yourself (spiritus)

You’ll need self control. 

Discipline. 

Practice.

 

I want you to think of self control as if it’s a Button that you can switch ON and OFF as you need it when you need it.

 

Part of having self control is knowing when to switch it off too.

 

In the picture below I made a simple visual representation of self control steps.

 

Share your thoughts.

 

If you want to start your journey with me join the program Human Upgrade 2.0 (for a week, a month, or more – your choice).

Email coaching is still available too.

 

🌟 PS: 🌟

Some of you will get inspired Only, by this type of content…

Others will get inspired BUT will also take action and start practicing.

And this is what makes the difference between people that can change something in their life, and those who can’t.

 

(Yeah, blame the cat 😼)

 

Have a good one!

D.

 

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SELF LOVE PERSPECTIVE

 

Self Love Perspective

 

There is a fine line between self-love and selfishness.

 

More and more people understand the importance of self-love, of loving yourself.

And yes, it’s a must.

 

But, some of them lack consideration for other people when doing so – aka selfishness.

 

Real self-love doesn’t equal being selfish!

 

It doesn’t mean you Only seek your best interest and cross the line there.

Let’s have this cleared out.

 

Loving Yourself Means 

 

Full acceptance of who you truly are (especially when no one’s watching).

 

Which leads to becoming the best version of yourself – and this will be reflected in your everyday life.

 

When you become the best version of yourself you are willing, naturally, to accept without judgment and embrace other people’s journeys. To listen and help others around you. (those you Choose to have around)

 

Real self-love means you’ve learned when to say No and when to say Yes – so you don’t get drained.

It means you always do things for the best interest of all involved.

 

It means real balance and authenticity when interacting with others – which, again, is going to be reflected inside out.

 

To get here you have to learn Self Control (to apply it when necessary) – over your thoughts, emotions, actions and reactions.

 

Ask yourself…

 

Am I truly loving myself or I’m just being selfish?

 

If you feel ready on all levels to start your journey to gaining self-control, so you can navigate smoother through life (personal or business-wise)

 

Start the Human Upgrade 2.0 program!

You can join for a week, a month, or more.

Within this program, you will get my daily support.

 

Email coaching is also available for you.

More info below.

 

If you have questions message me.

 

PS: If you want even more inspiration to get the needle moving, go read the ebook 

– The Journal of Human Emotions –

(find it on Amazon, kindle version only)

 

Have a good week!

D. 💚

 

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Money Talks. Facts.

 

Money talks. Facts.

 

Money isn’t evil or dirty. People who use them with wrong intentions are.

Selfish people.

Read that one more time.

 

I don’t do lots of posts on money, but this is one of them and I intend for this info to help you shift your money mindset.

 

I struggled for quite some time with a fear I had in this direction.

It was… fear of success!

Yes, it’s very real.

 

Because I always was, am, an observer, I could see what having money and success does to some people.

And it’s not good.

 

I had to work through it as I knew I didn’t want to change who I was. Who I am. Because of money.

 

This was, is and will be, a huge thing for me – to remain authentic no matter what.

 

Note: If you want more insights about this specific, personal journey, read my book (TJOHE). Among other stories that are there to support and inspire you on all levels.

 

Back to this post.

So I’ve started to work on these beliefs.

 

On assumptions like:

Money changes who you are.

Money makes you greedy.

You can lose who you are if you get successful.

Money doesn’t bring real happiness. Etc.

But I’ve found the way to shift those beliefs and make it work for me.

It starts with clear intentions, the rest is natural flow. 

And practice.

 

What I’ve also found is that, when you do deep self work, and actually release anything that is holding you back from your purpose (and I’m talking about deep inner work, consistent), financial opportunities appear as a natural consequence.

 

In conclusion, ideally is to do the inner work first then focus on money. They go hand in hand.

 

Of course, you do what you have to do to survive. We do live in a world where money is necessary.

But this is for the short term.

In the long run, for those that desire more from life and have good intentions on how to use their wealth…

Do the inner work!

To make it last.

 

How?

Well, start gaining full self control over your thoughts, emotions, actions and reactions.

And this is a process that can take time, BUT is so worth it!

 

I will list bellow a few assumptions you can start implementing right away.

 

Money is here to serve me. 

I use them and not viceversa.

Money is here to help fulfill my purpose.

Money is here to help me in being my best version.

Money is a tool that doesn’t control my life and who I am, I am the one using this tool in perfect balance always.

Therefore, money flows to me like water always. 

For me to keep, spend, invest, donate, for the best interest of all.

May this help you!

If you have questions, or you want to start working with me, send a message.

 

Have a great day!

D.

 

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Mental Health Tip

 

Mental Health Tip

 

There are moments when you need mental clarity, to take an important decision, or to simply release the mental clutter.

 

Mental clutter unaddressed can lead to difficult issues.

Which will be expressed inside out.

Not ideal.

 

What can you do?

 

There is an immediate action you can take.

Cleaning. 

Yes, cleaning your physical space, housekeeping.

 

I don’t want to hear excuses, you may have a maid and still can deep clean/organise something (your office papers, your car, anything else).

 

Research shows that exercise, moving your body and a clean space makes you feel better – releases those brain chemicals (like dopamine) that will boost your mood, that will give you motivation and satisfaction.

 

And when you clean you move. You get clarity.

 

This is something I’ve always done, whenever I needed mental clarity or to contemplate on a situation.

I am telling you this – it works!

 

A good test to check on your mental situation, if you are in the state of “all is well” when it’s not, is to look around and observe your private space.

Keep your place clean and tidy at least every 2 weeks.

 

If more than 2 weeks have passed,  since you’ve done it, you need to address your thoughts and emotional state.

Something is going on there.

 

As I said, this is an immediate action you can take to dissolve your mental clutter and gain clarity.

 

A handy solution to keep yourself in check.

 

If you want to read more on this subject I suggest this book – The life-changing magic of tyding up by Marie Condo.

A 50+ pages, easy to read book.

 

Also, you will discover insights on mental health in my personal stories from The Journal of Human Emotions book.

 

A small insight, sometimes I do it backwards.

Meaning, I get mental clarity and/or contemplate first, then I clean my space.

But this option is more advanced.

 

Keep it simple and practice.

 

As always, I have different ways to go about it, depending on your situation, when it comes to mental clarity.

And yes, is also about gaining self control.

 

If you have questions send me a message.

 

Have a good one!

D.

 

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Do you know your destination?

 

When you are 100% confident about your destination…

You’re gonna enjoy every bit of the journey that leads there!

Good or bad.

Learn self control to handle “the bad” with grace, while you’re heading towards chosen destination.

 

Having self control is going to open up endless opportunities in your journey.

 

And when you know that all of this is available for you, you can arrive at your destination faster than your mind can perceive.

 

People and situations will move to bring it to you. Necessary action will take place naturally.

 

There is more beyond your fears, worries, overthinking, low self esteem.

 

The real question is…

 

Are you willing to accept all parts of yourself and start changing what you don’t like?

Contemplate on this question.

If you feel ready to start your journey with me, send a message.

D.

 

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